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Personally, I don't want to have children because the risks and downsides aren't even remotely close to the benefits. Best case scenario: 10% chance you and yo

Personally, I don't want to have children because the risks and downsides aren't even remotely close to the benefits. Best case scenario: 10% chance you and your spouse are great parents, who stay healthy enough to be good parents, who have a physically and mentally healthy kid, who doesn't end up in a life-changing accident or addicted to substances or down an ideological rabbit hole, and you don't lose your income for 18 ~ 24 years while the kid grows into a self-sufficient adult. More likely scenario: something (physical, mental, environmental) is way off and there's lots of despair and suffering in your family for years or possibly forever. I don't like other people's kids, who are seemingly healthy, and I don't want to roll those dice for one of my own, who might not be.

D13Fd 2y ago
> Personally, I don't want to have children because the risks and downsides aren't even remotely close to the benefits. I'd say that the risks aren't worth the benefits to you. But my weighing of the benefits is different. To me, my kids give meaning and purpose. It's honestly hard to imagine not having them. I think different people are just different. To some, having a purpose in life (to raise your kids) is really meaningful and more important than worries about the risks, all of which seem minor in comparison. But to others, it's a burden instead of a purpose, so it doesn't make any sense to have kids.