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> it's not really compatible with more "serious" responsibilities like having a family or more demanding jobs. Can you explain why? I feel like weed makes me k

> it's not really compatible with more "serious" responsibilities like having a family or more demanding jobs. Can you explain why? I feel like weed makes me kinder to people (as well as letting go of small petty things, as the article suggested), which unironically seems like a major relationship booster, which is helpful in both family/career building.

verbalstone 2y ago
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jayd16 2y ago
A simple reason I don't smoke more often is because I might be asked to drive someone somewhere. Its a pretty common responsibility in a family, I would think.
- hackeraccount 2y ago
  I don't smoke and truthfully never really drank that much or that often but having a kid made my drinking go from not much to practically never for just the reason you're talking about. Drinking went from something super casual to - think about it, check in with the wife to confirm that she can/doesn't mind doing any potential driving, then have a drink or two. It's like scheduling a good time. Totally kill the vibe.
extr 2y ago
If you have kids you are not at liberty to be randomly inebriated throughout the day. That's what I mean by "responsibility". Even outside of hypothetical emergency situations where I might need to drive on a moment's notice, being high (or drunk, or anything) while looking after a small child just isn't right IMO.
- speedylight 2y ago
  It’s funny you say that because there are parents who can only do it if they’re high or buzzed on alcohol (wine moms, etc) You’re a good parent!
sublinear 2y ago
> seems like a major relationship booster Not in my experience. Drugs of any kind usually cause your partner to feel too distant from the "real you". Drug use may also indicate a lack of confidence and inability to handle mundane situations. Being an unreliable partner has to be one of the top relationship killers regardless of drug use. > kinder to people as well as letting go of small petty things I may be misunderstanding what you're saying here, but relationships should be way deeper than just being kind to each other. Disagreements are only as bad as the way they're handled. They need to be worked out early or the disappointment and irritation will only get worse. Burying your head in the sand doesn't sound like a good strategy.
- CapcomGo 2y ago
  Are you stuck in the 1950s or something?
- antisthenes 2y ago
  I was really hoping for some kind of sources/statistics, rather than some subjective moralizing of what makes a good partner. > I may be misunderstanding what you're saying here, but relationships should be way deeper than just being kind to each other. Yes, but being kind is the cornerstone of a good relationship. In my observed experience, most relationships don't even have that, so it's a good ideal to strive towards (as a first step) > Disagreements are only as bad as the way they're handled. No. If there are fundamental disagreements on relationship goals, then your relationship is a ticking time bomb. You can't "handle" your way out of that.
yoyohello13 2y ago
> I feel like weed makes me kinder to people (as well as letting go of small petty things, as the article suggested) It is possible to be this way without weed too. It takes practice but is very doable.

verbalstone 2y ago

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jayd16 2y ago

A simple reason I don't smoke more often is because I might be asked to drive someone somewhere. Its a pretty common responsibility in a family, I would think.

hackeraccount 2y ago
I don't smoke and truthfully never really drank that much or that often but having a kid made my drinking go from not much to practically never for just the reason you're talking about. Drinking went from something super casual to - think about it, check in with the wife to confirm that she can/doesn't mind doing any potential driving, then have a drink or two. It's like scheduling a good time. Totally kill the vibe.

extr 2y ago

If you have kids you are not at liberty to be randomly inebriated throughout the day. That's what I mean by "responsibility". Even outside of hypothetical emergency situations where I might need to drive on a moment's notice, being high (or drunk, or anything) while looking after a small child just isn't right IMO.

speedylight 2y ago
It’s funny you say that because there are parents who can only do it if they’re high or buzzed on alcohol (wine moms, etc) You’re a good parent!

sublinear 2y ago

> seems like a major relationship booster Not in my experience. Drugs of any kind usually cause your partner to feel too distant from the "real you". Drug use may also indicate a lack of confidence and inability to handle mundane situations. Being an unreliable partner has to be one of the top relationship killers regardless of drug use. > kinder to people as well as letting go of small petty things I may be misunderstanding what you're saying here, but relationships should be way deeper than just being kind to each other. Disagreements are only as bad as the way they're handled. They need to be worked out early or the disappointment and irritation will only get worse. Burying your head in the sand doesn't sound like a good strategy.

CapcomGo 2y ago
Are you stuck in the 1950s or something?
antisthenes 2y ago
I was really hoping for some kind of sources/statistics, rather than some subjective moralizing of what makes a good partner. > I may be misunderstanding what you're saying here, but relationships should be way deeper than just being kind to each other. Yes, but being kind is the cornerstone of a good relationship. In my observed experience, most relationships don't even have that, so it's a good ideal to strive towards (as a first step) > Disagreements are only as bad as the way they're handled. No. If there are fundamental disagreements on relationship goals, then your relationship is a ticking time bomb. You can't "handle" your way out of that.

yoyohello13 2y ago

> I feel like weed makes me kinder to people (as well as letting go of small petty things, as the article suggested) It is possible to be this way without weed too. It takes practice but is very doable.