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The value is that reputations are rarely indicative of what they appear from the surface; a lot of the time the reputation for being difficult ultimately derive
by cwillu 2y ago
The value is that reputations are rarely indicative of what they appear from the surface; a lot of the time the reputation for being difficult ultimately derives from challenging polite bullshit, and in my experience _that_ correlates to deep competence often enough to be worth investigating.
- soulofmischief 2y agoYeah, it took years for me to understand that the only people telling me things like "You always want to be right," or "Stop questioning everything," etc. as a child, were in fact themselves narcissists, abusers and control freaks who despise resistance. I don't mean to make it sound so one-dimensional or axiomatic, but at least in my particular life, this turned out to be the case. I maintain an extremely close group of friends, the only people I find myself having problems with are typically those with some sort of personality disorder or malevolent intent. And boy, do those people have mean things to say about me. :)