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That seems obvious, but then I considered for a moment how many (in-person) relationships are based on lies, illusions, and misunderstandings about the other pe

That seems obvious, but then I considered for a moment how many (in-person) relationships are based on lies, illusions, and misunderstandings about the other person - often not discovered until years into the relationship. With AI, at least you know that it isn't real. Which, maybe, somehow makes it more real...

add-sub-mul-div 2y ago
Bad relationships are expected, they're how you learn who is right for you, how to set and enforce boundaries, etc. They're progress towards learning and building important life skills. We don't want to send the message to people that they're too fragile to handle that.
- exe34 2y ago
  that's magical thinking. just because some people end up in better relationships doesn't mean it's a natural progression. plenty of people find themselves in a string of bad relationships until they either die or swear off relationships.
  - add-sub-mul-div 2y ago
    The fact that some people don't learn from mistakes and life experience doesn't change the fact that many do.
    - exe34 2y ago
      yes, but the fact that some people learn from mistakes and life experience doesn't change the fact that many don't!
      - fullshark 2y ago
        There will always be some way to rationalize it, because it will hypothetically make some people feel better at the very least temporarily, and doesn't have obvious long term health effects. The question is does it lead to long term growth, and a productive partnership and truly meaningful connection? Things that we traditionally associate with love. You can tell yourself that's all just synapses firing in the brain anyway, or a good enough simulation is indistinguishable from reality etc, but I simply don't accept that it will be equivalent and it may come at a signficant long term cost as people don't put in the work and accept the failures associated with trying to find someone for truly meaningful connection. The association with drugs, and vices, or junk food all make sense to me.

add-sub-mul-div 2y ago

Bad relationships are expected, they're how you learn who is right for you, how to set and enforce boundaries, etc. They're progress towards learning and building important life skills. We don't want to send the message to people that they're too fragile to handle that.

exe34 2y ago
that's magical thinking. just because some people end up in better relationships doesn't mean it's a natural progression. plenty of people find themselves in a string of bad relationships until they either die or swear off relationships.
- add-sub-mul-div 2y ago
  The fact that some people don't learn from mistakes and life experience doesn't change the fact that many do.
  - exe34 2y ago
    yes, but the fact that some people learn from mistakes and life experience doesn't change the fact that many don't!
    - fullshark 2y ago
      There will always be some way to rationalize it, because it will hypothetically make some people feel better at the very least temporarily, and doesn't have obvious long term health effects. The question is does it lead to long term growth, and a productive partnership and truly meaningful connection? Things that we traditionally associate with love. You can tell yourself that's all just synapses firing in the brain anyway, or a good enough simulation is indistinguishable from reality etc, but I simply don't accept that it will be equivalent and it may come at a signficant long term cost as people don't put in the work and accept the failures associated with trying to find someone for truly meaningful connection. The association with drugs, and vices, or junk food all make sense to me.