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It’s not the the medium itself or the message it carries, it’s the lack of emotional support that has been eroded for years now. It might sound cliché but in th

It’s not the the medium itself or the message it carries, it’s the lack of emotional support that has been eroded for years now. It might sound cliché but in the end what every human wants is to be loved, even when teens and pre-teens want to reveal against parents and their rules and teachings they still need them. How can a teen learn and accept that possessions do not guarantee happiness when everyone they see looks happy and successful and their parents look and fight everyday for the same empty goals and they’re absent escaping reality on their devices too. Let kids be kids and teens be teens parents don’t need to be “cool” they need to be parents.

space_oddity 3y ago
Emotional support is crucial for individuals' overall well-being and development. Unfortunately, families capable of providing such support are extremely rare in practice.
jimbokun 3y ago
Phones and social media have replaced parents. Its' the reason there is less connection between kids and their parents, their peers, teachers, everyone.
- Red_Leaves_Flyy 3y ago
  You’re really underselling the burden of labor in parent’s lives. Lucky enough to have two parents? They’re probably working 50-60 hours every week including unpaid time necessary for their jobs like commute, meal prep, unpaid breaks, etc. Most parents want to be more active and involved in their kids lives but material conditions get in the way. Blame shit economic policy and the greedy clowns that sold out America’s industrial base. Phones are an intellectually lazy excuse that ignores the facets that absolve parents of some of the responsibility you’re trying to heap on them. This is not to say that some parents are lazy and use screens as replacements for parenting; they exist but if you want to cast a net this wide - bring receipts.
  - sien 3y ago
    According to the stats parents now spend more time with their kids : From : https://www.prb.org/resources/do-parents-spend-enough-time-with-their-children https://www.prb.org/resources/do-parents-spend-enough-time-w... "Time diaries indicate that married fathers spent an average 6.5 hours a week caring for their children in 2000, a 153 percent increase since 1965. Married mothers spent 12.9 hours, a 21 percent increase. Single mothers spent 11.8 hours, a 57 percent increase."
    - Red_Leaves_Flyy 3y ago
      Caring is not necessarily bonding. Caring could be stuff like making meals or laundry.
ajsnigrutin 3y ago
It's not just emotional support, it's the bubble of "pretty" social networking. Even people who hate eachother will smile in a photo for instagram and will look like they "love" eachother. People just post the filtered best moments of their lives, their best experiences, a lot of pretty stuff, and they filter out the rest... nice photo of a beach? Sure.. sewer pipe just outside of visible photo? Nope, cropped out. Roaches in the cheap shitty hotel? Nope. Nice sunset? Sure. Saving for months for that trip? Nope. Travelling 16 hours on a bus? Nope. Cocktail with an umbrella? Yep, photo! And then there's you, doing all the same shitty stuff everyone else has to go through, sitting on the toilet at work, scrolling instagram, and you don't see any of that, but you get an impression that everyone else is living a much better life, because you only see the highlights of their life. And then you save all that money, spend it on the same shitty bus, for the same shitty hotel and sewer infested beach, but you still crop out only the pretty stuff and post that.

space_oddity 3y ago

Emotional support is crucial for individuals' overall well-being and development. Unfortunately, families capable of providing such support are extremely rare in practice.

jimbokun 3y ago

Phones and social media have replaced parents. Its' the reason there is less connection between kids and their parents, their peers, teachers, everyone.

Red_Leaves_Flyy 3y ago
You’re really underselling the burden of labor in parent’s lives. Lucky enough to have two parents? They’re probably working 50-60 hours every week including unpaid time necessary for their jobs like commute, meal prep, unpaid breaks, etc. Most parents want to be more active and involved in their kids lives but material conditions get in the way. Blame shit economic policy and the greedy clowns that sold out America’s industrial base. Phones are an intellectually lazy excuse that ignores the facets that absolve parents of some of the responsibility you’re trying to heap on them. This is not to say that some parents are lazy and use screens as replacements for parenting; they exist but if you want to cast a net this wide - bring receipts.
- sien 3y ago
  According to the stats parents now spend more time with their kids : From : https://www.prb.org/resources/do-parents-spend-enough-time-with-their-children https://www.prb.org/resources/do-parents-spend-enough-time-w... "Time diaries indicate that married fathers spent an average 6.5 hours a week caring for their children in 2000, a 153 percent increase since 1965. Married mothers spent 12.9 hours, a 21 percent increase. Single mothers spent 11.8 hours, a 57 percent increase."
  - Red_Leaves_Flyy 3y ago
    Caring is not necessarily bonding. Caring could be stuff like making meals or laundry.

ajsnigrutin 3y ago

It's not just emotional support, it's the bubble of "pretty" social networking. Even people who hate eachother will smile in a photo for instagram and will look like they "love" eachother. People just post the filtered best moments of their lives, their best experiences, a lot of pretty stuff, and they filter out the rest... nice photo of a beach? Sure.. sewer pipe just outside of visible photo? Nope, cropped out. Roaches in the cheap shitty hotel? Nope. Nice sunset? Sure. Saving for months for that trip? Nope. Travelling 16 hours on a bus? Nope. Cocktail with an umbrella? Yep, photo! And then there's you, doing all the same shitty stuff everyone else has to go through, sitting on the toilet at work, scrolling instagram, and you don't see any of that, but you get an impression that everyone else is living a much better life, because you only see the highlights of their life. And then you save all that money, spend it on the same shitty bus, for the same shitty hotel and sewer infested beach, but you still crop out only the pretty stuff and post that.