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Say no, politely, with your reasons. If they continue to argue: 1) Unwatch the issue/block emails realted to the issue (setup tooling for this) 2) If they conti

Say no, politely, with your reasons. If they continue to argue: 1) Unwatch the issue/block emails realted to the issue (setup tooling for this) 2) If they continue to harass just block them, they are a waste of your precious time and energy And yes they will go cry on reddit or HN or their own blogs and call you names. Ignore it. Be happy in the knowledge of the thousands or millions of people whose lives you have improved by your labor. Most of them wont bother to say thank you, but a few will, rememebr those. And be happy in the knowledge that the worlds is a better place because you exist in it, in however small a way. The key is to realize that human psychology is by default not well equipped to deal with the internet. We tend to react much more strongly to criticism than praise. Recognize that in yourself, and gradually change it.

bennyhill 3y ago
This is certainly a good idea for the individual who is running a FOSS project.. But I think the projects with maintainers who bend over backwards for people are more often the ones that end up chosen and kept as dependencies when there are for example hundreds of compression libraries to choose from. The distribution game is kind of stacked for the most likely to burn out to be the most likely to be important in the stack and in desperate need of help.
- bee_rider 3y ago
  It makes sense that this could have been an easy mistake to make in the past. Responsive people seem more interested and engaged. But I wonder if it would be best seen as imprudent now? If highly responsive maintainers are susceptible to burnout, then maybe people should consider those other algorithms. Especially considering the responsiveness here is responsiveness to the peanut gallery. It would probably be good for the maintainers too. If being responsive is seen as a way to have a bigger impact, people might be inclined to become more responsive and burn out.
- ncruces 3y ago
  But I think the projects with maintainers who bend over backwards for people are more often the ones that end up chosen and kept as dependencies when there are for example hundreds of compression libraries to choose from. You're not wrong, and that's the first mistake: the individual running a FOSS project wants to see their project succeed and willingly bends over backwards to make it so. The more you care about popularity, or even acceptance, the more vulnerable you are.
shrimp_emoji 3y ago
Don't even engage to begin with. Embrace elitism. Embrace the natural order. "The lion needn't be polite to the sheep." ;p Plus, they're probably Chinese intelligence agency bots.

bennyhill 3y ago

This is certainly a good idea for the individual who is running a FOSS project.. But I think the projects with maintainers who bend over backwards for people are more often the ones that end up chosen and kept as dependencies when there are for example hundreds of compression libraries to choose from. The distribution game is kind of stacked for the most likely to burn out to be the most likely to be important in the stack and in desperate need of help.

bee_rider 3y ago
It makes sense that this could have been an easy mistake to make in the past. Responsive people seem more interested and engaged. But I wonder if it would be best seen as imprudent now? If highly responsive maintainers are susceptible to burnout, then maybe people should consider those other algorithms. Especially considering the responsiveness here is responsiveness to the peanut gallery. It would probably be good for the maintainers too. If being responsive is seen as a way to have a bigger impact, people might be inclined to become more responsive and burn out.
ncruces 3y ago
But I think the projects with maintainers who bend over backwards for people are more often the ones that end up chosen and kept as dependencies when there are for example hundreds of compression libraries to choose from. You're not wrong, and that's the first mistake: the individual running a FOSS project wants to see their project succeed and willingly bends over backwards to make it so. The more you care about popularity, or even acceptance, the more vulnerable you are.

shrimp_emoji 3y ago

Don't even engage to begin with. Embrace elitism. Embrace the natural order. "The lion needn't be polite to the sheep." ;p Plus, they're probably Chinese intelligence agency bots.