> I am not allowed to discuss what I really did on my time off (it was a punk show or something like this, probably). You sound like a typical software enginee

> I am not allowed to discuss what I really did on my time off (it was a punk show or something like this, probably). You sound like a typical software engineer, tons of software engineers has such hobbies. Your problem seems to be more that you judge others thinking they will shun you for liking those things instead of opening up to find people like you, trust me there are a ton of software engineers who would love to talk about your hobbies. If you talked about managers or lawyers then you'd have a point, they are more uptight. But software engineers often live extremely frugally and come with all kinds of hobbies and backgrounds, they usually don't care about social norms that much.