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I’ve noticed that everything at the top of Reddit is about how important screen time is. I’ve also noticed how your standards for hangout buddies skyrocket whe

I’ve noticed that everything at the top of Reddit is about how important screen time is. I’ve also noticed how your standards for hangout buddies skyrocket when you spend time alone. I think the lesson here is that we’re not getting enough good solitude, and chasing that situation with bad solitude, but I’m not sure what the line looks like yet.

bongodongobob 3y ago
As someone who is 40, single, and works remotely, I'd say the exact opposite.
- 65C816 3y ago
  What’s it like from your perspective? I’m currently single and work remotely as well.
- horrysith 3y ago
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- mikepurvis 3y ago
  But I think the point is that good solitude is time in nature, time writing or reading (but, an actual book), time spent in meditation or working with your hands. Bad solitude when you’re physically alone but perhaps engaging in fake togetherness activities— online gaming, social media, work zoom calls, dumping memes into five different group chats.
Zambyte 3y ago
> how important screen time is. To have or to avoid? I'm OOTL on this.
TuringNYC 3y ago
>> I’ve also noticed how your standards for hangout buddies skyrocket when you spend time alone. I love your comment. I remember the pressure in my early 20s to "go out" into the city, etc. I dont mind socializing, but I found it odd that people would socialize with others they didnt respect, sometimes even back-biting others. What is the point of spending time if you dont truly like the people you spend time with? I especially see this behaviour amongst wealthier colleagues who "go out" almost as habit with seemingly no satisfaction coming from it. Once solitude is an option, it is a great hurdle level to evaluate how else time might be spent. I no longer feel socially awkward to opt out socially and just spend an evening reading a book. But I equally love spending hours at a cafe if it is with people I respect and like.
- sublinear 3y ago
  > What is the point of spending time if you dont truly like the people you spend time with? I especially see this behaviour amongst wealthier colleagues who "go out" almost as habit with seemingly no satisfaction coming from it. They're probably trying to cast a broader net, but I agree most people don't do it right and keep fishing in the same spots.

bongodongobob 3y ago

As someone who is 40, single, and works remotely, I'd say the exact opposite.

65C816 3y ago
What’s it like from your perspective? I’m currently single and work remotely as well.
horrysith 3y ago
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mikepurvis 3y ago
But I think the point is that good solitude is time in nature, time writing or reading (but, an actual book), time spent in meditation or working with your hands. Bad solitude when you’re physically alone but perhaps engaging in fake togetherness activities— online gaming, social media, work zoom calls, dumping memes into five different group chats.

Zambyte 3y ago

> how important screen time is. To have or to avoid? I'm OOTL on this.

TuringNYC 3y ago

>> I’ve also noticed how your standards for hangout buddies skyrocket when you spend time alone. I love your comment. I remember the pressure in my early 20s to "go out" into the city, etc. I dont mind socializing, but I found it odd that people would socialize with others they didnt respect, sometimes even back-biting others. What is the point of spending time if you dont truly like the people you spend time with? I especially see this behaviour amongst wealthier colleagues who "go out" almost as habit with seemingly no satisfaction coming from it. Once solitude is an option, it is a great hurdle level to evaluate how else time might be spent. I no longer feel socially awkward to opt out socially and just spend an evening reading a book. But I equally love spending hours at a cafe if it is with people I respect and like.

sublinear 3y ago
> What is the point of spending time if you dont truly like the people you spend time with? I especially see this behaviour amongst wealthier colleagues who "go out" almost as habit with seemingly no satisfaction coming from it. They're probably trying to cast a broader net, but I agree most people don't do it right and keep fishing in the same spots.