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Are you a doctor, to be diagnosing depression?

Blahah 3y ago
Nobody diagnosed anything. It's a perfectly reasonable thing for a person to suggest that another person might be depressed, especially in this context where it is clearly intended to be supportive.
- EchoChamberMan 3y ago
  Your right, it's possibly even worse, they want to "argue" depression, completely ignoring the op's statement "I'm not depressed." Many people here have a strong case of "I know better than you, I'm going to ignore your request and tell you how it really is." They literally tell this young person "Get over it... No one really cares that much." How dare they. Vile and disgusting thing to say to someone. You have no idea what the poster has been through. The incredible definition of depression used? "It can manifest in anger and outbursts, fits of despair, doom and gloom, etc." Not particularly authoritative. Post a link to the Mayo clinic or whatever. But you're right, arguing depression isn't the biggest problem with that post; just the first. Opt out is not consent. Have some compassion. Respect people's very basic requests please.
  - Blahah 3y ago
    It seems like you're advocating for something the OP didn't ask for. They asked for advice about how to stop "being this way". That's what the GP comment provided. I'm sorry for whatever you've been through. There is no shame in considering, or experiencing, depression. And someone suggesting that you might be in that situation is not oppression, it's care.
  - reactordev 3y ago
    I would suggest you follow your own advice here. Have some compassion and don’t jump to conclusions. Since you demand a mayoclinic link, here you go: https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/depression/in-depth/male-depression/art-20046216 https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/depression/in...
reactordev 3y ago
My wife is and I’ve picked up on a few tells. Thanks.
- EchoChamberMan 3y ago
  Oh you're totally qualified then. Unbelievable.
  - reactordev 3y ago
    Qualified enough to know the signs. Including being overly defensive about how you aren’t category A. Nobody wants to admit it. It’s human nature to say “no, you’re wrong, you don’t know anything about me” and yet we have a whole line of science dedicated to just that. I’m only trying to help them see clearly. They have some hallmark traits that suggest that they are, in fact, depressed. There’s nothing to be ashamed of to admit it. We all go through it. You aren’t less of a human because you have it. And you aren’t less of a human if someone suggests you do. Calm down.
    - EchoChamberMan 3y ago
      Why don't you just get over it, nobody cares that much. [Edit] "Calm down." xD I apologize for letting my anger get the best of me.

Nobody diagnosed anything. It's a perfectly reasonable thing for a person to suggest that another person might be depressed, especially in this context where it is clearly intended to be supportive.

EchoChamberMan 3y ago
Your right, it's possibly even worse, they want to "argue" depression, completely ignoring the op's statement "I'm not depressed." Many people here have a strong case of "I know better than you, I'm going to ignore your request and tell you how it really is." They literally tell this young person "Get over it... No one really cares that much." How dare they. Vile and disgusting thing to say to someone. You have no idea what the poster has been through. The incredible definition of depression used? "It can manifest in anger and outbursts, fits of despair, doom and gloom, etc." Not particularly authoritative. Post a link to the Mayo clinic or whatever. But you're right, arguing depression isn't the biggest problem with that post; just the first. Opt out is not consent. Have some compassion. Respect people's very basic requests please.
- Blahah 3y ago
  It seems like you're advocating for something the OP didn't ask for. They asked for advice about how to stop "being this way". That's what the GP comment provided. I'm sorry for whatever you've been through. There is no shame in considering, or experiencing, depression. And someone suggesting that you might be in that situation is not oppression, it's care.
- reactordev 3y ago
  I would suggest you follow your own advice here. Have some compassion and don’t jump to conclusions. Since you demand a mayoclinic link, here you go: https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/depression/in-depth/male-depression/art-20046216 https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/depression/in...

reactordev 3y ago

My wife is and I’ve picked up on a few tells. Thanks.

EchoChamberMan 3y ago
Oh you're totally qualified then. Unbelievable.
- reactordev 3y ago
  Qualified enough to know the signs. Including being overly defensive about how you aren’t category A. Nobody wants to admit it. It’s human nature to say “no, you’re wrong, you don’t know anything about me” and yet we have a whole line of science dedicated to just that. I’m only trying to help them see clearly. They have some hallmark traits that suggest that they are, in fact, depressed. There’s nothing to be ashamed of to admit it. We all go through it. You aren’t less of a human because you have it. And you aren’t less of a human if someone suggests you do. Calm down.
  - EchoChamberMan 3y ago
    Why don't you just get over it, nobody cares that much. [Edit] "Calm down." xD I apologize for letting my anger get the best of me.