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> I'm totally fine with failure You shouldn't. > it's more a feeling of as another commentator said "worthlessness" and that I do not have any knowledge and a

> I'm totally fine with failure You shouldn't. > it's more a feeling of as another commentator said "worthlessness" and that I do not have any knowledge and as such anything I've made has been only possible through external means (googling, following tutorial, whatever excuse my mind makes up about me making up my experience). Well, maybe it's not "debilitating fear of failure". Maybe it's indeed a "feeling of worthlessness". Maybe it's something else with an official name that you can wave around to justify your failures. One thing is sure: it's not impostor syndrome. At all. > Like say seeing some influencer brag about how they manage to create a game engine in 24 hours while for me making a "deployable webapp" takes months, will make me feel worthless and then start to question anything I've done is actually learnt or if it's just "luck" or "cheating" that made me able to write this simple webapp. Never, _ever_, compare yourself to anyone else.

shrimp_emoji 3y ago
> Never, _ever_, compare yourself to anyone else. Challenge level: impossible More realistically, compare yourself to others but chase it with the perspective that you have totally different lives and that you only see the best of other people. You probably know stuff they don't; you've each been on different journeys. If you see 3 people better than you at 3 things, it's easy to overlook that and to instead think, "Damn, I suck at all 3 of those things!" And when you do find out one of them knows less than you about some 4th thing, it hardly seems to matter since your brain is most attuned to confirming your insecurities and noticing the next thing you "need" for status or survival or whatever. :p