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With all due respect here - "20 years of successful online dating" sounds like an oxymoron! Unless you're choosing to date and to not enter into a long term re

With all due respect here - "20 years of successful online dating" sounds like an oxymoron! Unless you're choosing to date and to not enter into a long term relationship?

carabiner 3y ago
Yes? You can be successful (or a failure) at being single, dating, or married. There's not one universally valid approach to relationships.
fluidcruft 3y ago
With all due respect, this seems like a Rorschach test? He didn't say "20 years continuously dating online"? People can date online a bit, get into a relationship for a quite a while, relationship ends, go back to online dating, etc.
- remram 3y ago
  This is semantics, but I think the parent's point is: if the relationship ended, was it "successful"? You obviously have different answers (and that's fine!)
lazide 3y ago
If you can consistently eat out at restaurants every night, why settle for Mom’s home cooked meals every night? Some will see a reason to. Others won’t. You won’t see many home cooked meal enthusiasts at the restaurant, either way.
julianeon 3y ago
Actually this brings up an interesting point: the article implicitly assumes that the winning condition, the optimal outcome, is a long term relationship. But is it? Certainly many rich guys don’t act like that (stay w one person for 50+ years). This is important, because if we don’t have a consensus on what the best outcome is, that would explain why we’re not getting one. There may not be a single optimal outcome for that userbase.
- pertymcpert 3y ago
  We don't need consensus since consensus is impossible with a large population. You just need a vast majority and the vast majority agree on the winning condition.
  - morsch 3y ago
    The average marriage in the US lasts 8 years.
    - fnordian_slip 3y ago
      Isn't this (heavily?) influenced by a small amount of people who marry again and again?
      - morsch 3y ago
        Kind of. The median is apparently 19. Still, if a lifelong marriage is winning at life, we're a society of losers.
        fnordian_slip 3y ago
        That's a big "if" imho. Especially, since there are more than enough instances of unhappy marriages in previous generations. Often people stayed in abusive relationships because divorce was heavily frowned upon.

With all due respect here - "20 years of successful online dating" sounds like an oxymoron! Unless you're choosing to date and to not enter into a long term relationship?

carabiner 3y ago

Yes? You can be successful (or a failure) at being single, dating, or married. There's not one universally valid approach to relationships.

fluidcruft 3y ago

With all due respect, this seems like a Rorschach test? He didn't say "20 years continuously dating online"? People can date online a bit, get into a relationship for a quite a while, relationship ends, go back to online dating, etc.

remram 3y ago
This is semantics, but I think the parent's point is: if the relationship ended, was it "successful"? You obviously have different answers (and that's fine!)

lazide 3y ago

If you can consistently eat out at restaurants every night, why settle for Mom’s home cooked meals every night? Some will see a reason to. Others won’t. You won’t see many home cooked meal enthusiasts at the restaurant, either way.

julianeon 3y ago

Actually this brings up an interesting point: the article implicitly assumes that the winning condition, the optimal outcome, is a long term relationship. But is it? Certainly many rich guys don’t act like that (stay w one person for 50+ years). This is important, because if we don’t have a consensus on what the best outcome is, that would explain why we’re not getting one. There may not be a single optimal outcome for that userbase.

pertymcpert 3y ago
We don't need consensus since consensus is impossible with a large population. You just need a vast majority and the vast majority agree on the winning condition.
- morsch 3y ago
  The average marriage in the US lasts 8 years.
  - fnordian_slip 3y ago
    Isn't this (heavily?) influenced by a small amount of people who marry again and again?
    - morsch 3y ago
      Kind of. The median is apparently 19. Still, if a lifelong marriage is winning at life, we're a society of losers.
      - fnordian_slip 3y ago
        That's a big "if" imho. Especially, since there are more than enough instances of unhappy marriages in previous generations. Often people stayed in abusive relationships because divorce was heavily frowned upon.