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I’d say half my friends have had trouble conceiving, many probably will not ever have kids, and a decent chunk of my cousins as well had trouble or weren’t able

I’d say half my friends have had trouble conceiving, many probably will not ever have kids, and a decent chunk of my cousins as well had trouble or weren’t able to. It’s not just that people don’t have cousins

SoftTalker 3y ago
A lot of people wait way too long to have kids these days. Prime fertility is your 20s. After 30 more and more people will have trouble conceiving.
- dalyons 3y ago
  Why do you think that is? People waiting I mean
  - SoftTalker 3y ago
    Increasingly people feel pressure or obligation to go to college and spend their 20s getting established in a career. By the time they feel ready to have kids it's more likely they'll have trouble.
    - dalyons 3y ago
      I don’t think they are mistaken though? Housing and childcare are multiples more expensive than a generation ago, makes sense people need to feel established.
      - anon84873628 3y ago
        I get that but I think the other point is equally significant. After college it's fun to make money, travel, date around... generally continue exploring yourself and the world and having few responsibilities.
  - piperswe 3y ago
    As someone in my early 20s, I can barely even take care of myself (and that's pushing it). At this stage of my life, I can't imagine being able to give a child everything a parent needs to give them.
Klonoar 3y ago
> I’d say half my friends have had trouble conceiving There's probably statistics out there but I've not looked into it - but anecdotally I also know a large contingent of people who've had issues conceiving. Many late 20s, too - people always seem to think it's more common in your 30s but so many of them were confused by the experience.
jimbob45 3y ago
Lot of blame gets placed on women too and sometimes it's misplaced. At-home sperm testing kits should really be covered by insurance considering how cheap and easy they are[0]. [0]https://yospermtest.com/ https://yospermtest.com/

SoftTalker 3y ago

A lot of people wait way too long to have kids these days. Prime fertility is your 20s. After 30 more and more people will have trouble conceiving.

dalyons 3y ago
Why do you think that is? People waiting I mean
- SoftTalker 3y ago
  Increasingly people feel pressure or obligation to go to college and spend their 20s getting established in a career. By the time they feel ready to have kids it's more likely they'll have trouble.
  - dalyons 3y ago
    I don’t think they are mistaken though? Housing and childcare are multiples more expensive than a generation ago, makes sense people need to feel established.
    - anon84873628 3y ago
      I get that but I think the other point is equally significant. After college it's fun to make money, travel, date around... generally continue exploring yourself and the world and having few responsibilities.
- piperswe 3y ago
  As someone in my early 20s, I can barely even take care of myself (and that's pushing it). At this stage of my life, I can't imagine being able to give a child everything a parent needs to give them.

Klonoar 3y ago

> I’d say half my friends have had trouble conceiving There's probably statistics out there but I've not looked into it - but anecdotally I also know a large contingent of people who've had issues conceiving. Many late 20s, too - people always seem to think it's more common in your 30s but so many of them were confused by the experience.

jimbob45 3y ago

Lot of blame gets placed on women too and sometimes it's misplaced. At-home sperm testing kits should really be covered by insurance considering how cheap and easy they are[0]. [0]https://yospermtest.com/ https://yospermtest.com/