That's fair and true: I wrote a long comment on a sibling with a similar conflict that might rhyme On further reflection prompted by your comment, I guess what

That's fair and true: I wrote a long comment on a sibling with a similar conflict that might rhyme On further reflection prompted by your comment, I guess what I'd say is it happens, but nothing useful comes from trying to actively address from a mentor role due to sociological reasons: i.e. unless you're emperor, it looks like a mentor rolling in the mud with a mentee. It actually costs you more than them because theyre supposed to be naive and new, whereas with the mentor, it looks like they're too immature to take on the more advanced role. This was shaped by 7 years at Google, a very strange place where unsustainably surreal and smiling was preferred over functional and forthright --- I'm being unfair with that, but it's good to share because it's a concrete warning my bias is towards avoiding conflict and sitting and waiting.