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I’ve hired several friends as employees. It works fine if both of you are able to separate work from friendship. Admittedly not everyone can do this, but it wor

I’ve hired several friends as employees. It works fine if both of you are able to separate work from friendship. Admittedly not everyone can do this, but it worked out in my situation.

highwaylights 3y ago
It probably did, you know your friends and I don’t, but you don’t know that it worked out. You really have no way of knowing if your friends still think of you the same post-employment even if you’re still acquainted.
- lmm 3y ago
  A friendship isn't and shouldn't be a pickled-in-amber thing. If the friendship you have now is one you're happy with, that's a success, whether it's the same as the one you had before or not.
  - Aeolun 3y ago
    That’s true to some extend. If you are still happy with it, but your friends are not, is it still a success? Not that you’d ever know of course.
    - qup 3y ago
      I communicate with my friends. I expect them to tell me things like this.
      - lmm 3y ago
        While I'd hope a friend would call me out if they felt things were going downhill in our friendship, I wouldn't say I'd expect it. But I would definitely expect the friendship to go downhill for me too, even if from my side it just looked like an innocuous "drifting apart".
      - lukan 3y ago
        What if they suddenly fear, they will loose their job, if they are honest with you?
        geraldhh 3y ago
        low self esteem can kill most relationships
        lukan 3y ago
        There is low self esteem and there is a need to feed a family.
- s1artibartfast 3y ago
  I dont think same-ness is the metric of success. Similarly, individuals can judge success by their one sided satisfaction with the result. e.g. "I am still very happy with the relationship" = success.
- saghm 3y ago
  > You really have no way of knowing if your friends still think of you the same post-employment even if you’re still acquainted. I don't know about that. Sure, they might not have been totally happy with it, but if they're still friends with them, clearly they didn't hold any grudged. I think it's reasonable to give someone the benefit of the doubt that they aren't just being oblivious to the fact that they've been ghosted or something unless you have evidence to the contrary.

I’ve hired several friends as employees. It works fine if both of you are able to separate work from friendship. Admittedly not everyone can do this, but it worked out in my situation.

highwaylights 3y ago

It probably did, you know your friends and I don’t, but you don’t know that it worked out. You really have no way of knowing if your friends still think of you the same post-employment even if you’re still acquainted.

lmm 3y ago
A friendship isn't and shouldn't be a pickled-in-amber thing. If the friendship you have now is one you're happy with, that's a success, whether it's the same as the one you had before or not.
- Aeolun 3y ago
  That’s true to some extend. If you are still happy with it, but your friends are not, is it still a success? Not that you’d ever know of course.
  - qup 3y ago
    I communicate with my friends. I expect them to tell me things like this.
    - lmm 3y ago
      While I'd hope a friend would call me out if they felt things were going downhill in our friendship, I wouldn't say I'd expect it. But I would definitely expect the friendship to go downhill for me too, even if from my side it just looked like an innocuous "drifting apart".
    - lukan 3y ago
      What if they suddenly fear, they will loose their job, if they are honest with you?
      - geraldhh 3y ago
        low self esteem can kill most relationships
        lukan 3y ago
        There is low self esteem and there is a need to feed a family.
s1artibartfast 3y ago
I dont think same-ness is the metric of success. Similarly, individuals can judge success by their one sided satisfaction with the result. e.g. "I am still very happy with the relationship" = success.
saghm 3y ago
> You really have no way of knowing if your friends still think of you the same post-employment even if you’re still acquainted. I don't know about that. Sure, they might not have been totally happy with it, but if they're still friends with them, clearly they didn't hold any grudged. I think it's reasonable to give someone the benefit of the doubt that they aren't just being oblivious to the fact that they've been ghosted or something unless you have evidence to the contrary.