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There's a difference between having a negative personal reaction, and sharing it publically. It's causing a public harm based on nothing other than some vague
by ta8645 3y ago
There's a difference between having a negative personal reaction, and sharing it publically. It's causing a public harm based on nothing other than some vague internal feeling. It's unproductive and irresponsible.
- zwieback 3y agoWhat about publicly sharing positive personal reaction, is that okay? If you answer yes to that and no to the other then you've got a problem on your hands.
- qwertthrowway 3y agoTheo problem is when you say bad things about someone that isn’t true it’s called slander and if it’s true then it’s backbiting. It’s not good in general to malign people or put a negative look on them without a good reason.
- aidenn0 3y agoThe original comment said nothing about Fred Rogers. It was "I ... always found Mr. Rogers himself creepy" Furthermore it induced a few interesting replies about his style of looking directly into the camera and long-takes, and parasocial relationships (to be fair, it also induced a single reply with someone implying that while Mr. Rogers probably isn't a pedophile, "better safe than sorry"). As an aside, I'm somewhat surprised nobody's mentioned the puppets yet; lots of people find puppets creepy.
- pimlottc 3y ago> The original comment said nothing about Fred Rogers. It was "I ... always found Mr. Rogers himself creepy" That’s pretty passive aggressive. Wouldn’t you be offended if someone said that about you? “I never said you were stupid, I just /think/ of you as stupid.”
- aidenn0 3y agoFirstly, I can say that I definitely would not be offended, since people have said that about me, and I wasn't offended. Secondly, we are talking about a performer while performing[1] Sharing personal reactions (both positive and negative) to public performances is, IMO, well within the bounds of polite discourse. 1: This is harder to distinguish when the actor's name is "Fred Rogers" and the role is "Mr. Rogers," but the original comment referred to "Mr. Rogers" rather than Fred Rogers and used the phrase "especially while singing," so I think it's a safe assumption here.
- ta8645 3y agoWe'd have a problem on our hands if we all followed the admonishment to show more respect to people in public? To not besmirch someone, with no reason other than our own personal bias and prejudice? You're worried about the world being too kind and positive? You shouldn't. There are enough people actually doing things worthy of scorn -- enough to wear out your keyboard -- without besmirching someone for the flimsiest of reasons.
- zwieback 3y agoI believe when talking about a fictional character different rules apply than when talking about a real person. Otherwise criticism of creative output would be considered rude.
- cwillu 3y agoSorry, are you really saying it's bad to communicate your feelings? On a thread about Mr Rogers? I'm _deeply_ uncomfortable with eye contact, and find Mr Rogers to be deeply disturbing to watch. And being able to _talk_ about that without it being implied that it means either of us are bad people is an important lesson.
- ta8645 3y agoNobody is telling you not to discuss your feelings, but there's a difference between taking adult responsibility by saying something like: "I was not emotionally equipped to watch Mr. Rogers; I had a very hard time dealing with the feelings that arose when I watched that show". And shifting the responsibility to him, by implying that he was a creep of a person.