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I think in general men have to get use to rejection and it’s a tough pill to swallow. There seems to be by far more rejection than acceptance for a lot of young
by pylua 3y ago
I think in general men have to get use to rejection and it’s a tough pill to swallow. There seems to be by far more rejection than acceptance for a lot of young men, and it can be very difficult to persevere after being beaten down. I wish this would be researched more.
- joshschreuder 3y agoI think this probably gets a lot worse before it gets better. I'm not in the space myself but am close with a number of primary/elementary educators and from my perspective it appears as though in Western/developed countries at least there has been a massive shift away from teaching rejection and "life is unfair" philosophy and moving towards "everyone's a winner" type stuff. And education has a perverse incentive to just promote kids that are floundering instead of failing/holding them back and upsetting parents / making more work for the already underpaid and overworked teachers. We're only just recently trying to course correct for this by teaching resilience training, because of course these kids will get to the "real world" of tertiary education / careers and just completely fall apart the first time things don't work out exactly as they planned. I would be curious to see the age ranges of self reported incels and whether this correlates to a modern generation raised like this.
- pylua 3y agoI think the schools unfortunately are not equipped to do resilience training — they are only able to pacify failures.