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For me it has ! I have way more sex (I try to have it everyday) than my parents seem to have but a lot less children :D At 35, I feel I'm peaking to a point it'

by xwolfi 3y ago

For me it has ! I have way more sex (I try to have it everyday) than my parents seem to have but a lot less children :D At 35, I feel I'm peaking to a point it's almost too much. What really seem to work to have sex a lot is to have lots of money (to get partners you wouldnt otherwise get), look exotic by emigrating (I live in Asia but was born in France), immediately ditch low libido partners (it's not always their fault, maybe you re just not attractive enough to them and that's totally okay), and be ready to really go the extra mile in bed to make it a bit new and exciting even with a long term partner: for instance I think it's important both climax each time and if it's hard then you buy tools and use them, no shame in that. My friends find it shameful to need a vibrator, but do they understand how exciting it is for a girl to climax while making love absolutely each time no matter what, and quickly, and how boring it is when it's a struggle and frustration instead ? I m a straight male, and Im into straight females, and I find many of them have submissive fantasies they have trouble to express and materializing them makes the sex absolutely addictive to them. My current gf is 19, likes to be roughed a little bit, have rape fantasies even I have trouble to play fully and her peak excitement is when I make her cry: this is not even rare, if you dare to ask. I even found it quite common but they are very shy to express it if you're too goody goody. If you dont have enough sex and it matters to you, then spend more money on it, look more exotic (or find foreign girls locally who will find you exotic), and be ready to be a bit mean, in a playful way. I dont have abs but I never met a girl who didnt fantasize on it: sounds like a cheap way to move up a few ranks, for instance.

nonethewiser 3y ago
Maybe people are onto something when they say sex should be reserved for someone special that you love. Because this is just... wow. An honest take and probably not all that uncommon with the commodification of sex. But completely unhealthy.
- xwolfi 3y ago
  Why do you say it's commodified though ? We have a lot of fun, we cannot get away from each other a minute and we deeply connect. We re never bored, we never fight long. I've had sex with her every day for 8 months, yes, but does that make it a commodity ? I would assume it would be if I was trading it or changing partners all the time ? The key to make sex good is to make it somehow special each time rather than a boring obligation: isnt that the opposite of commodification? Arent bored couples fucking every 2 sundays able to trade one memory for the other as if there was no difference, the definition of a commodity ? I dont think it's that unhealthy and we're very special to each other and I love my girlfriend immensely. Still we fuck a lot, and I would never go back to someone not compatible with me, who cannot get excited, and cannot diversify bed activities (not their fault, just not compatible)... You should try to make your partner come often, it's really more fun than pretending sex has to be rare and holy ! Bah you'll see when you find someone so special you just cant not desire them. Money, exoticism, vibrators and brutal honesty are the key to find it in my limited experience.

by xwolfi 3y ago

nonethewiser 3y ago

Maybe people are onto something when they say sex should be reserved for someone special that you love. Because this is just... wow. An honest take and probably not all that uncommon with the commodification of sex. But completely unhealthy.

xwolfi 3y ago
Why do you say it's commodified though ? We have a lot of fun, we cannot get away from each other a minute and we deeply connect. We re never bored, we never fight long. I've had sex with her every day for 8 months, yes, but does that make it a commodity ? I would assume it would be if I was trading it or changing partners all the time ? The key to make sex good is to make it somehow special each time rather than a boring obligation: isnt that the opposite of commodification? Arent bored couples fucking every 2 sundays able to trade one memory for the other as if there was no difference, the definition of a commodity ? I dont think it's that unhealthy and we're very special to each other and I love my girlfriend immensely. Still we fuck a lot, and I would never go back to someone not compatible with me, who cannot get excited, and cannot diversify bed activities (not their fault, just not compatible)... You should try to make your partner come often, it's really more fun than pretending sex has to be rare and holy ! Bah you'll see when you find someone so special you just cant not desire them. Money, exoticism, vibrators and brutal honesty are the key to find it in my limited experience.