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> and paint myself in a good light You don't absolutely need to paint yourself in a good light. One can describe mistakes, mishaps, even times when they were b
by bambax 3y ago
> and paint myself in a good light
You don't absolutely need to paint yourself in a good light. One can describe mistakes, mishaps, even times when they were being mean. Injecting some bad outlooks can help balance the narrative and make the whole picture look more sincere.
But the hero of the story has to be in charge. They can fail, or make huge mistakes, but they can never watch events happen and pass them by, without them doing anything. That's the worst mistake a storyteller can make.
- DeathArrow 3y ago>Injecting some bad outlooks can help balance the narrative and make the whole picture look more sincere. You have to asses whether the person values sincerity or it wants a new shiny thing. Act like a car salesman. Also, look into the interviewers eyes. Try to watch your gestures. I never injected bad outlooks unless being asked what were some mistakes I made. I made sure that my mistakes were insignificant and maybe not mistakes at all. I am a purrrfect developer/architect and I want to help making the company purrrfect. We want to satisfy our customers, while making lots of money for the shareholders, make all bosses happy, big and small, and achieve great things together as a team. That's the message.
- runlaszlorun 3y agoI can’t remember exactly where but there was a study- it could have been recommendation letters or maybe resumes- where candidates who has some low to mid level flaws mentioned were rated significantly higher. I think the theory is that a couple minor downsides make the upsides more credible. Obviously there’s limits. And going on a long rant about how crappy you actually are would def provide needed entertainment.
- loup-vaillant 3y ago> You don't absolutely need to paint yourself in a good light. That really, really depends on the interviewer. Some will laud sincerity, others will scorn weakness. Though personally I could never figure out who I was dealing with before I tell my story. If they don’t like how I am, oh well. I’m not hungry yet.
- mejutoco 3y agoWe are arguing semantics but IMO the sincerity is part of painting yourself in a good light. Saying you are perfect is not painting yourself in a good light, but making sure you attribute success also to your colleagues (I did x they did y) and mention good things you did, even with mistakes, ultimately tells good things about you.
- hooverd 3y agoTBH, that's still painting yourself in a good light. Just a subtler approach to that. Overcoming flaws is more compelling than never having them in the first place. Because we all know that everything/everyone fails all the time.