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I think it's acceptable to make a sheet like that. As long as is doesn't end with "temporary"

• strken 3y ago
  Why?
  • bruce343434 3y ago
    Why not? Does it matter if you do or don't materialise what is already in your thoughts into (what should be) a private sheet?
    • Aeolun 3y ago
      I dunno, feels kind of like writing things you don’t want your boss to know in corporate chat.
    • strken 3y ago
      My problem with the spreadsheet is that it has "temporary" and red cells in it. If your private thoughts are that you should leave your girlfriend, then it's a bad idea to stay and a worse idea to compare her to the other options. It's inconsiderate of the limited time she has available for living her life. Commit, leave, or communicate to her that the relationship is temporary. Plus, a numerical rating from 0 to 10 is a reductionist way of understanding someone. What exactly does a low chill mean? It's probably situational, right? Numerically defining someone turns amorphous changing thoughts into a solid number and locks that perception in place, preventing you from learning more. Maybe you're putting her in situations where she's not chill? Maybe it's situational and you haven't learned what causes it? These complexities hide behind a single simplifying number.
  • DontchaKnowit 3y ago
    Idk I think its wrong or at the least unhealthy to evaluate ( also known as judge) people on a scale like that.