It's honestly shocking how often I need to remind myself that some people that I will interact with in this world, see the world that way: that the import of a

It's honestly shocking how often I need to remind myself that some people that I will interact with in this world, see the world that way: that the import of an act lies with how it will be seen by the affected party, rather than how it will affect that party or how that party would think of it if they knew all the details they would find relevant. Edit to add quote: “A few years ago, we gave our daughter, now 18, a stuffed bear for her birthday. At the time, we had recently discovered she had a boyfriend whom she was hiding from us. It was quite a shock. We wanted to be able to keep a closer eye on what she was doing without breaking her trust, so we installed a hidden camera inside the eye of the stuffed bear. Our daughter is now in college, and we overheard her telling her roommate how grateful she was for our trust in her and our support. We have been racked with guilt ever since. How can we tell our daughter about the camera without destroying our relationship with her? Should we tell her at all?” At least they have guilt once they find out they've gotten away with it. They really need to acknowledge that the relationship is already broken (“destroyed” is going too far), regardless of whether their daughter knows yet.