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I think the word "exceptionally" arises when comparing with other animals, the amount of effort a human child needs from its parents and family until an advance
by kaskakokos 3y ago
I think the word "exceptionally" arises when comparing with other animals, the amount of effort a human child needs from its parents and family until an advanced age is unprecedented in other terrestrial companions.
- secondcoming 3y agoIndeed, it always a source of surprise to me that human babies will cry regardless of the situation, whereas the offspring of other animals seem to have an instinct to remain quiet while the mother is not about, or there's a perceived danger.
- Guthur 3y agoWell if you come with an assumption we are like the other animals you are going to make an ass of someone.
- HenryBemis 3y agoWell not like ALL animals, since not all animals act the same way. I don't expect we are like fish, that (some?many?most?) are abandoned as eggs to make it on our own, or like sharks that have two wombs and the mama-shark keeps generating eggs to feed the two stronger babies (one in each womb). I assume that those who "group" us based on similarities on the behavior and manner we raise our offspring must have use some logic to the process.
- Erratic6576 3y agoUnlike kittens and superior animals, ape babies are not meant to be abandoned at any point, under no circumstances. They are meant to be carried around by their mothers or substitute relatives, clinging to them, so their sudden whimsical needs can be catered to immediately, or else you run the risk of developing an insecure attachment relationship. Google images for “monkey attached mother”.
- Erratic6576 3y agoYeah maybe that’s why women live longer in order to help with the exhausting process of raising their grandchildren [1]. We love to take care of babies, regardless of (or maybe because of) how clingy and dependent they are. From an Evolutionary point of view, This relationship between needy babies and abnegated caregivers might have given rise to a complementary schimogenesis according to Gregory Bateson, in which babies might have evolved to be more and more dependent, because having more and more invested caregivers produces fitter offspring. Parenthood is a self-inflicted sabotage and I cannot understand how come there are so many parents bearing children worldwide. 1. The Gardener and the Carpenter: Alison Gopnik, Erin Bennett: 9781536617832
- bnlxbnlx 3y agoYes, parenthood is intense, both both ways. It intensifies the highs and the lows. There's more strain and there's more joy. And there's a lot less strain when moving out of nuclear family structures. It all becomes easier for the children and the parents.
- lumost 3y agoCan you elaborate? Curious how the stress profile differs in alternative family structures.
- Apocryphon 3y agoIt’s in TFA but pretty self-evident: in traditional non-nuclear families, extended kin (especially grandparents) help with childcare, reducing the burden.
- bnlxbnlx 3y agoi'm living with two other families in a house (separate apartments). it lifts the hyper dependency of children on their parents and creates more room to attend to needs for both adults and children. it also makes it possible to stack many things, like grocery shopping or cooking (one person cooking for 12 people does not require three times as much time as cooking for four people). plus, there's usually always other adults at the house that you can hang out with plus many other kids for your kids to play with, so less stress with playdates etc.