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Diamonds are worthless, but reject them at your own peril. When my friend proposed to his girlfriend of 3 years, because the ring didn’t have a diamond she said
by xwdv 3y ago
Diamonds are worthless, but reject them at your own peril. When my friend proposed to his girlfriend of 3 years, because the ring didn’t have a diamond she said no.
- LUmBULtERA 3y agoSounds like your friend dodged a bullet there.
- knock_down_11 3y ago[flagged]
- Projectiboga 3y agoSorry for your friend, but that is a discussion you have to have at least danced around a little. Like which cut and whether she really cares about it. I'd say he dodged a bullet if she dumped him outright over that. I could understand a polite "no I don't like that ring, try again", but treating that like a deal breaker, wow.
- xwdv 3y agoShe eventually accepted once he got a proper ring.
- friend_and_foe 3y agoOh damn nvm your friend is going to get fleeced first in credit card bills and then in divorce court. He got a proper ring instead of preserving his self respect and getting himself a proper wife.
- WheelsAtLarge 3y agoIf you think about it, a ring is just as unneeded as a diamond. The situation is that a diamond ring has become a social norm. I would bet that if you ask most women whether they want a diamond engagement ring or another type of rock, they will pick the diamond ring by an overwhelming majority. Imagine a woman telling others about their engagement and showing a rock other than a diamond. It would be a disappointment any way you see it. The "diamonds are a scam" reason just won't cut it. The diamond industry has been extremely successful at planting that notion in society.
- escapedmoose 3y agoI and most of my friends (late 20s to early 30s) have non-diamond engagement rings. The consensus is that diamonds are outdated, exploitative, and scammy. I also think they’re not as pretty/eye-catching as my lab-grown emerald.
- lelanthran 3y agoI thought that lab-grown emeralds were more expensive than diamonds. If that is true, then buying something more expensive than the usual thing doesn't invalidate any of the arguments against diamond engagement/wedding rings. If emeralds are cheaper, then while I'd rather have the emerald anyway (it's prettier to my eyes), I can't see any person (male or female) preferring the cheaper jewelry.
- escapedmoose 3y agoMy ring is vintage, the lab-grown emerald replacing whatever stone it used to hold. I imagine that brought down the price. My preference generally is for well-kept vintage jewelry. Beyond thriftiness, there’s an extra charm to wearing something loved by someone before you :)
- jojobas 3y agoThat's a framing issue. "Should we spend $X of our now common budget on a ring, or spend $Y < $X on a ring and buy a nicer car/pay out the house faster/add some more to the kids college fund?" If she says "the ring" to that, consider a replacement.
- pbj1968 3y agoThat’s the version he gave you. Think critically.
- xwdv 3y agoIf she had said no for some other reason why would he come up with that diamond story instead?
- lelanthran 3y ago> If she had said no for some other reason why would he come up with that diamond story instead? Less damaging to his ego? A woman rejecting a man because the ring was not good enough portrays the woman poorly. A woman rejecting a man because she can do better portrays the man poorly.
- ranting-moth 3y agoMy friend proposed with a ring he made over a weekend out of no fancy materials. She said yes.
- shiroiuma 3y agoHe avoided a doomed marriage to a shallow woman. It's just too bad he wasted 3 years on her.
- xwdv 3y agoHe got a diamond ring later and she accepted. Didn’t waste.
- laserlight 3y agoSounds to me like he's wasting rest of his life, in addition to first three years.
- lelanthran 3y ago> Diamonds are worthless, but reject them at your own peril. When my friend proposed to his girlfriend of 3 years, because the ring didn’t have a diamond she said no. Sounds like your friend dodged a bullet there. (I proposed to my now-wife without a ring. After she said yes, we went shopping for one).
- throw_m239339 3y agoYour friend dodged a bullet, a big one.
- bt4u 3y ago[dead]
- friend_and_foe 3y agoHe dodged a bullet if you ask me.
- schainks 3y agoSounds like a protocol error. They did not have a conversation first about the stones for the engagement ring?