The soft skills section has some great examples of where the author lacks his/her own soft skills. Some folks, during stand up, just want to get on with their

The soft skills section has some great examples of where the author lacks his/her own soft skills. Some folks, during stand up, just want to get on with their day. They will say things (Like George Did, "I helped so and so all day") just to keep it moving. Doesn't mean they truly believe what they just said, they just want to get back to work. Sometimes, people will do things, things that seem like they are incompetent or don't care, but really that is your own bias (Why did they not help me when I needed it?) and make you look like not the team player. Instead, you should have gone to "George" and said, "Hey, thanks for looking at that issue, I managed to solve it with Michael's help, here's how we fixed it." Lead by example. Lead with empathy. Maybe George spent only 5 minutes with you because he has deadlines and doesn't have the communication skills to say "Hey Bob, I'd love to help you, really I would, but I have this hard deadline for this feature I'm working on and it's stressing me out because I can't solve this edge case". Use your words, explain your thoughts, people will be WAY more receptive and will want to work with you. Again and again.