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> Navigating these types of situations is a skill that can be developed. It's difficult to practice something where failure means disaster.
by oriolid 3y ago
> Navigating these types of situations is a skill that can be developed.
It's difficult to practice something where failure means disaster.
- cgriswald 3y agoWell, yes. Just as you don't develop guitar skills by practicing on stage during a live performance, you don't practice your social skills by asking out the girl in your social group with whom you are infatuated.
- gedy 3y agoSorry - what counts as "practice" then?
- cgriswald 3y agoUsing whichever skill you are trying to develop in low stakes situations. You can flirt with a large variety of people and the social consequences are pretty low. Thinking about how people respond to it is also free. If it's rejection you fear, say hi to strangers. Some of them will ignore you (or maybe even be bothered). That's rejection. It feels like rejection. But the stakes are so low it's safe and you'll become inoculated to a degree or at least comfortable with it. If you want to get better at asking people out, either roleplay with a friend or ask people out that you find interesting, even (especially) if you don't have a crush on them. Bonus: You might get practice at dating, or just find someone you really like.
- staticman2 3y agoI know a guy who socializes with a lot of women who turned him down for a realtionship, for what it's worth.