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Start with small changes, preferably ones you can walk back. I was in a rut and in sessions with a therapist became convinced that it was all my wife's fault.
by djdjsnj 3y ago
Start with small changes, preferably ones you can walk back.
I was in a rut and in sessions with a therapist became convinced that it was all my wife's fault. Now I don't have a wife and there's no hope of going back. A nebulous rut related to not having enough purpose or socialization in life has been replaced by a deep depression and crippling loneliness.
Don't worry about the grass on the other side of the fence. Watering your own lawn is often better than moving on.
My advice on how to dig yourself out of a rut - Spend a week focusing on making your loved ones' lives as happy and easy as possible. Removing a stressor from someone else's life will make you feel better about your own stressors. Making someone smile on the outside will make you smile on the inside.
- shrimp_emoji 3y ago> Now I don't have a wife and there's no hope of going back. I don't understand. It sounds like the situation vastly improved.
- andelink 3y agoHoly moly. What does that therapist suggest doing now?
- cableshaft 3y agoSorry you're in that situation :(. There's always risk when making big changes, and relationships are probably the toughest change to make, since it tends to be a permanent one, but for some people, it's also the one they need most. Sounds like it wasn't in your case, but unfortunately it can be hard to know for certain until you make the change, which sucks. I do wish that sometimes I could set a savepoint like in video games, try something different for a while, then be able to go back to the checkpoint if I'm not happy with the change. I'm sure I'd make more changes in my own life if I had the ability to do that.