There are some good observations here but the whole thing gives off the vibe of those men who complained about being "friendzoned" some years ago. Like in gene

There are some good observations here but the whole thing gives off the vibe of those men who complained about being "friendzoned" some years ago. Like in general, doesn't this go both ways? The ghoster has most likely a complementary psychological issue or whatever to the ghostee who is traumatized by the abandonment (or whatever). A relationship where somebody is significantly hurt by abandonment is particular and filled with intimate context, anything otherwise is necessarily an effect of false entitlement on some level. The impulse to pathologize this as a kind of phenomenon, to try and universalize so many surely specific and nuanced relations between human beings is at best misguided, and at worst culture war bait. Human relations are messy and charged necessarily by the expectations and conceptions of the cultural ideology you find yourself in. But they can also be the one beautiful thing in a life that need not be colored by Big Discourse or sweeping societal diagnoses. But this doesnt stop relationships from being the source of some of the greatest misery a person can feel. In fact, that very quality is actually what makes so great, it makes relationships precisely what they are. Friendship, love, companionship, etc are nothing without loss, betrayal, and even abandonment. Its a feature, not a bug! I worry lines of thought like this can encourage people to be scientific and critical and optimizing-mindset about the one thing you really shouldnt be that about.