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Because it is annoying to deal with pushy people, especially those with an agenda. And there are also situations where saying anything does you no good. I woul

Because it is annoying to deal with pushy people, especially those with an agenda. And there are also situations where saying anything does you no good. I would not ghost people who I have a relation with or I have some respect of them. Unfortunately sometimes you have to deal with not so nice people too.

smeej 3y ago
This is definitely the other side of ghosting. If you ask my dad, I am 100% sure he would tell you I have ghosted him. In reality, I told him repeatedly, over the course of years, that if he would not speak to me with at least a base level of civility, I would stop talking to him, and then when I did stop, I ended with, "Because you continue to refuse to speak to me with at least a base level of civility..." And it's not like I just put up with it for years. Each time, I would go slightly longer without speaking to him. But eventually I would guilt myself into, "But he's your father. You have to try again." But it didn't matter how long the break was. Nothing changed. So I finally realized there was no more good to come of being in touch, told him so, and cut contact. I imagine a lot of people have this experience with narcissists. And if they see your action as "ghosting," so be it.
- rrherr 3y ago
  See also: "A shift in American family values is fueling estrangement" https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=27833159 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=27833159
jcpst 3y ago
This is the liberating side of ghosting. When you have people in your life that make false accusations, manipulate, lie, and cannot be reasoned with, ghosting them can be a quality of life improvement. It is quite a bit different than someone ghosting because they’re bored with someone. The conflict is already out in the open. But otherwise, I’ve always given a reason. Whether they can accept the reason is up to them.

smeej 3y ago

This is definitely the other side of ghosting. If you ask my dad, I am 100% sure he would tell you I have ghosted him. In reality, I told him repeatedly, over the course of years, that if he would not speak to me with at least a base level of civility, I would stop talking to him, and then when I did stop, I ended with, "Because you continue to refuse to speak to me with at least a base level of civility..." And it's not like I just put up with it for years. Each time, I would go slightly longer without speaking to him. But eventually I would guilt myself into, "But he's your father. You have to try again." But it didn't matter how long the break was. Nothing changed. So I finally realized there was no more good to come of being in touch, told him so, and cut contact. I imagine a lot of people have this experience with narcissists. And if they see your action as "ghosting," so be it.

rrherr 3y ago
See also: "A shift in American family values is fueling estrangement" https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=27833159 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=27833159

jcpst 3y ago

This is the liberating side of ghosting. When you have people in your life that make false accusations, manipulate, lie, and cannot be reasoned with, ghosting them can be a quality of life improvement. It is quite a bit different than someone ghosting because they’re bored with someone. The conflict is already out in the open. But otherwise, I’ve always given a reason. Whether they can accept the reason is up to them.