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Ghosting, where it is most ubiquitous now, that is short lived interaction with obvious disinterest (bad first date, failed job interview, etc), is good actuall

by hcks 3y ago

Ghosting, where it is most ubiquitous now, that is short lived interaction with obvious disinterest (bad first date, failed job interview, etc), is good actually. Even in professional settings, responding with a “no” often leads to unwanted further communication. In a perfect world people would take a no for an answer and not cross boundaries but it’s not the case (you can call me an oversensitive zoomer)

falcor84 3y ago
If that's the issue, you can always write something like "The answer is no, please do not contact me further in this matter", and maybe even block the sender then, but still have the "no" spelled out. It would be so much nicer than just ghosting.
- lordnacho 3y ago
  And in fact it's better this way. I never had a problem with anyone who said no personally or professionally. You end up spending a bunch of emotional energy thinking about what might be when someone ghosts you, made worse by the fact that some people are genuinely slow to get back to you and then sometimes actually do so.
FormerBandmate 3y ago
No it isn’t. It destroys trust in society and robs people of the chance to figure out where they went wrong and dehumanizes everyone. There’s a certain lack of value for humanity endemic in huge parts of society right now that’s especially present in rich people, which leads to shit like that. Why do you think so many people are depressed and anxious right now?
- insickness 3y ago
  If you go on a date with someone and then the next day or a few days later text them and they don't respond, you have your answer. They weren't into you. What more is there to discuss? They don't owe you an explanation as to why they didn't like you. Is it really helpful for them to say, "Sorry, I wasn't attracted to you"?
  - FormerBandmate 3y ago
    The problem is that pretty much all of society is operated on the principle that no one owes anyone else anything. Makes everyone resent each other, and it’s friends, employers, schools, everything. Huge reason behind the success of people like Donald Trump and Bernie Sanders

by hcks 3y ago

falcor84 3y ago

If that's the issue, you can always write something like "The answer is no, please do not contact me further in this matter", and maybe even block the sender then, but still have the "no" spelled out. It would be so much nicer than just ghosting.

lordnacho 3y ago
And in fact it's better this way. I never had a problem with anyone who said no personally or professionally. You end up spending a bunch of emotional energy thinking about what might be when someone ghosts you, made worse by the fact that some people are genuinely slow to get back to you and then sometimes actually do so.

FormerBandmate 3y ago

No it isn’t. It destroys trust in society and robs people of the chance to figure out where they went wrong and dehumanizes everyone. There’s a certain lack of value for humanity endemic in huge parts of society right now that’s especially present in rich people, which leads to shit like that. Why do you think so many people are depressed and anxious right now?

insickness 3y ago
If you go on a date with someone and then the next day or a few days later text them and they don't respond, you have your answer. They weren't into you. What more is there to discuss? They don't owe you an explanation as to why they didn't like you. Is it really helpful for them to say, "Sorry, I wasn't attracted to you"?
- FormerBandmate 3y ago
  The problem is that pretty much all of society is operated on the principle that no one owes anyone else anything. Makes everyone resent each other, and it’s friends, employers, schools, everything. Huge reason behind the success of people like Donald Trump and Bernie Sanders