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I assume from the "rumors are spreading" you're talking about a high school situation - in which case that'll stop pretty quickly when you get to college (or fu

by tw04 3y ago

I assume from the "rumors are spreading" you're talking about a high school situation - in which case that'll stop pretty quickly when you get to college (or full time work), so just tough it out. If you're a grown adult and have rumors following you around, just find a new friends group. If your town is so small that you can't escape that, seriously just move? If it's a job and the culture is gossip, it's probably time to just find a new job. I get that uprooting your whole life is a VERY BIG DEAL but you only live once. There's no way you're ever going to be happy dealing with constant gossip, and that isn't normal. That's a very, very abnormal situation you're in if you're a grown adult.

jdthedisciple 3y ago
I agree with "tough it up" to a large degree. However, the funny thing about people like you is you would never say "though it up" to a woman yet you would claim "women and men are equal" disingenuous
- tw04 3y ago
  I literally have said that to a woman who was having a tough time her sr. year of high school with catty girls in her grade. There was no avoiding them, the behavior didn't rise to the level the school was going to do anything, and she wasn't in a position to transfer.
  - em-bee 3y ago
    in addition, there are ways to share this message that is not belittling. people read "tough it out" as: "be a man, tough it out, haha", but it could also be: "yeah, i am sorry you are in a rough spot. unfortunately, there is no way you can avoid it, so you are going to have to protect yourself in other ways. here are a few things you can do.... don't give up and loose hope, this will go away."
Izkata 3y ago
> so just tough it out Congrats, you have just advocated for what's called "toxic masculinity".
- tw04 3y ago
  >Congrats, you have just advocated for what's called "toxic masculinity". No, I've just advocated for: high school sucks. It has literally nothing to do with being a guy. I would and have said the same thing to girls dealing with asshole classmates. At some point your options are find a new school, or just grin and bear it because your life is a different place after HS. Most high schoolers don't have the option of a different school.

by tw04 3y ago

jdthedisciple 3y ago

I agree with "tough it up" to a large degree. However, the funny thing about people like you is you would never say "though it up" to a woman yet you would claim "women and men are equal" disingenuous

tw04 3y ago
I literally have said that to a woman who was having a tough time her sr. year of high school with catty girls in her grade. There was no avoiding them, the behavior didn't rise to the level the school was going to do anything, and she wasn't in a position to transfer.
- em-bee 3y ago
  in addition, there are ways to share this message that is not belittling. people read "tough it out" as: "be a man, tough it out, haha", but it could also be: "yeah, i am sorry you are in a rough spot. unfortunately, there is no way you can avoid it, so you are going to have to protect yourself in other ways. here are a few things you can do.... don't give up and loose hope, this will go away."

Izkata 3y ago

> so just tough it out Congrats, you have just advocated for what's called "toxic masculinity".

tw04 3y ago
>Congrats, you have just advocated for what's called "toxic masculinity". No, I've just advocated for: high school sucks. It has literally nothing to do with being a guy. I would and have said the same thing to girls dealing with asshole classmates. At some point your options are find a new school, or just grin and bear it because your life is a different place after HS. Most high schoolers don't have the option of a different school.