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If the OP needs to zone-out to avoid a panic attack when talking with his wife, it sounds like they have some serious marital problems, and this is just a way o

If the OP needs to zone-out to avoid a panic attack when talking with his wife, it sounds like they have some serious marital problems, and this is just a way of avoiding dealing with them.

robertlagrant 3y ago
Read this: > I suffered from panic attacks in my youth. Does it now make sense?
tuyiown 3y ago
> If the OP needs to zone-out to avoid a panic attack when talking with his wife He didn't said that. His wife his just frustrated that he can do this, I'm pretty sure he never told us he did this to annoy his wife on purpose or escaping.
- smogcutter 3y ago
  > In this state I may acknowledge her talking to me but have little or no memory of any conversations after. He tunes out his wife > if I so choose Willfully > It drives my wife crazy And often enough that it’s an issue. He hasn’t shown up again in this bizarre thread, heck he’s probably doing it right now!
  - tuyiown 3y ago
    Don't build scenarios out of aligned facts : > but if I so choose, I can completely zen out within 30 seconds and enter a state of total relaxation. Sometime peoples just want to have own time and relaxing in their own preferred way > In this state I may acknowledge her talking to me but have little or no memory of any conversations after. It happened to his wife to come and start talking to him in this state, but him being able to acknowledge her without remembering the conversation causes her great frustration. >> He hasn’t shown up again in this bizarre thread, heck he’s probably doing it right now! Given the number of totally unjustified judgmental, misread based responses, no wonder one would shy out. Assuming that checking for answers it the sane behavior in the first place.
    - saiya-jin 3y ago
      Well, OP could have framed his description a lot better since its easy even for native speakers to come up with conclusion he acts like an a-hole towards his wife and avoids conflicts. This is internet, folks don't re-read some anonymous comments 5 times to grok what was actually meant. Good for him if he managed to get serious crippling condition under control, that's a hard feat deserving respect. Not a fan of self-illusion claims about talking to god, that's not even how major religions are made from scratch (communication with God in my view is 2-way process, and no judaism/christian/muslim god ever talks back, but I get that it was probably not meant literally), but that's just an agnostic's nitpick when seeing righteous religious folks who claim weird stuff in my view.
      - tuyiown 3y ago
        You're blaming the poster for judgmental people snapping at him ? It's one thing to wish people being more articulate, it's another to use it as an excuse for 0 thought patronizing. If someone has to refrain from express themselves or taking better care of what and how they say it, it's moralists reframing words of other people, without even thinking of asking questions beforehand.
      - mistermann 3y ago
        > Not a fan of self-illusion claims about talking to god > no judaism/christian/muslim god ever talks back Agnostic: One who believes that it is impossible to know whether there is a God. Houston, we have a problem: faith is a fundamental aspect of consciousness and culture, not just religion.
      - robertlagrant 3y ago
        > Well, OP could have framed his description a lot better since its easy even for native speakers to come up with conclusion he acts like an a-hole towards his wife and avoids conflicts Definitely not - it was completely clear from the start that OP had panic attacks since childhood.
    - monero-xmr 3y ago
      I went to sleep - but all of these responses and conjecture amuse me greatly, so I shall let it continue without comment.
Cthulhu_ 3y ago
You're blaming one person's emotional and physical experience on two people for some reason. One thing that is important in a healthy marriage is that people's feelings vs their actions are separate entities, and that one person's feelings shouldn't affect someone else's in an unhealthy fashion (enmeshment). A panic attack is unhealthy and unhelpful - if there's a conflict, one party going into a panic will not resolve the conflict. TL;DR, being able to stop a panic attack or otherwise unproductive emotional response is a great skill to have. If the other party takes that personal then that's something they need to work on themselves.

If the OP needs to zone-out to avoid a panic attack when talking with his wife, it sounds like they have some serious marital problems, and this is just a way of avoiding dealing with them.

robertlagrant 3y ago

Read this: > I suffered from panic attacks in my youth. Does it now make sense?

tuyiown 3y ago

> If the OP needs to zone-out to avoid a panic attack when talking with his wife He didn't said that. His wife his just frustrated that he can do this, I'm pretty sure he never told us he did this to annoy his wife on purpose or escaping.

smogcutter 3y ago
> In this state I may acknowledge her talking to me but have little or no memory of any conversations after. He tunes out his wife > if I so choose Willfully > It drives my wife crazy And often enough that it’s an issue. He hasn’t shown up again in this bizarre thread, heck he’s probably doing it right now!
- tuyiown 3y ago
  Don't build scenarios out of aligned facts : > but if I so choose, I can completely zen out within 30 seconds and enter a state of total relaxation. Sometime peoples just want to have own time and relaxing in their own preferred way > In this state I may acknowledge her talking to me but have little or no memory of any conversations after. It happened to his wife to come and start talking to him in this state, but him being able to acknowledge her without remembering the conversation causes her great frustration. >> He hasn’t shown up again in this bizarre thread, heck he’s probably doing it right now! Given the number of totally unjustified judgmental, misread based responses, no wonder one would shy out. Assuming that checking for answers it the sane behavior in the first place.
  - saiya-jin 3y ago
    Well, OP could have framed his description a lot better since its easy even for native speakers to come up with conclusion he acts like an a-hole towards his wife and avoids conflicts. This is internet, folks don't re-read some anonymous comments 5 times to grok what was actually meant. Good for him if he managed to get serious crippling condition under control, that's a hard feat deserving respect. Not a fan of self-illusion claims about talking to god, that's not even how major religions are made from scratch (communication with God in my view is 2-way process, and no judaism/christian/muslim god ever talks back, but I get that it was probably not meant literally), but that's just an agnostic's nitpick when seeing righteous religious folks who claim weird stuff in my view.
    - tuyiown 3y ago
      You're blaming the poster for judgmental people snapping at him ? It's one thing to wish people being more articulate, it's another to use it as an excuse for 0 thought patronizing. If someone has to refrain from express themselves or taking better care of what and how they say it, it's moralists reframing words of other people, without even thinking of asking questions beforehand.
    - mistermann 3y ago
      > Not a fan of self-illusion claims about talking to god > no judaism/christian/muslim god ever talks back Agnostic: One who believes that it is impossible to know whether there is a God. Houston, we have a problem: faith is a fundamental aspect of consciousness and culture, not just religion.
    - robertlagrant 3y ago
      > Well, OP could have framed his description a lot better since its easy even for native speakers to come up with conclusion he acts like an a-hole towards his wife and avoids conflicts Definitely not - it was completely clear from the start that OP had panic attacks since childhood.
  - monero-xmr 3y ago
    I went to sleep - but all of these responses and conjecture amuse me greatly, so I shall let it continue without comment.

Cthulhu_ 3y ago

You're blaming one person's emotional and physical experience on two people for some reason. One thing that is important in a healthy marriage is that people's feelings vs their actions are separate entities, and that one person's feelings shouldn't affect someone else's in an unhealthy fashion (enmeshment). A panic attack is unhealthy and unhelpful - if there's a conflict, one party going into a panic will not resolve the conflict. TL;DR, being able to stop a panic attack or otherwise unproductive emotional response is a great skill to have. If the other party takes that personal then that's something they need to work on themselves.