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Sorry, this isn't how the employment market works. * "help evaluate my skills and use this information for job placement purposes" * "some recruiter or agency

Sorry, this isn't how the employment market works. * "help evaluate my skills and use this information for job placement purposes" * "some recruiter or agency could give me a test and help me understand my value" * "I'd be willing to put a hell of a lot more effort in" Nobody cares about whatever unique snowflake combination of random skills you happen to have from previous jobs (and you shouldn't either). Employers care only about their own needs, which they more or less clearly communicate in their job ads, and they look for people who are minimally qualified for those roles. You need to look at what the market wants, and provide that. Understanding your value, and putting effort in is on you, nobody can do that for you.

dirtybirdnj 3y ago
I have skills but I struggle to get past the interview process. My peers seem to be able to bounce back from job losses / layoffs but I'm just in a death spiral. I want to die. My next steps are medicating myself into compliance or inpatient / outpatient psychiatric care. I am at my breaking point after 5+ years of failure, struggle and pain. When I end up in jobs I routinely hear "wow you can do all of that? why are you here?!" The problem is a lack of social skills combined with bad luck in jobs. I cant control managers driving the car off the cliff and destroying projects I worked on / companies I worked for. I don't have the golden parachutes they did and all I am left with is the wreckage of a failed career.
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- notsurenymore 3y ago
  > When I end up in jobs I routinely hear "wow you can do all of that? why are you here?!" My guess is that this isn't reflected well on your resume. I've done a lot of interesting things and impressed a few people myself, but it's never anything that really fits on the resume. Then when I go job searching, all they see is the BS resume and are rightfully unimpressed. I don't think there's a good way out. I'm trying to leave the industry entirely, but even that's more difficult than you'd expect.
  - dirtybirdnj 3y ago
    I really appreciate this reply, it doesn't help either of us to know we aren't alone in this experience but I appreciate the effort it takes to be honest and open about struggles like this. > I'm trying to leave the industry entirely, but even that's more difficult than you'd expect. I still want to code, or at least part of me still thinks it can be an enjoyable thing whether I am paid to do it or not. Its not the work that's the problem, it's the people and how they treat me. You cannot convince someone to "fix" a problem when their salary depends on them being blissfully unaware. Personally, I'm making fishing lures. https://www.verticaltubejig.com https://www.verticaltubejig.com Weather has been shit lately so its been a while since I have been able to get out. Pictures and video of my adventures help me remember it wasn't all a dream. Im so bad at giving myself credit for things. In the depths of despair over my job hunt its been a literal liferaft to keep my head above water to do fishing stuff.

dirtybirdnj 3y ago

I have skills but I struggle to get past the interview process. My peers seem to be able to bounce back from job losses / layoffs but I'm just in a death spiral. I want to die. My next steps are medicating myself into compliance or inpatient / outpatient psychiatric care. I am at my breaking point after 5+ years of failure, struggle and pain. When I end up in jobs I routinely hear "wow you can do all of that? why are you here?!" The problem is a lack of social skills combined with bad luck in jobs. I cant control managers driving the car off the cliff and destroying projects I worked on / companies I worked for. I don't have the golden parachutes they did and all I am left with is the wreckage of a failed career.

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notsurenymore 3y ago
> When I end up in jobs I routinely hear "wow you can do all of that? why are you here?!" My guess is that this isn't reflected well on your resume. I've done a lot of interesting things and impressed a few people myself, but it's never anything that really fits on the resume. Then when I go job searching, all they see is the BS resume and are rightfully unimpressed. I don't think there's a good way out. I'm trying to leave the industry entirely, but even that's more difficult than you'd expect.
- dirtybirdnj 3y ago
  I really appreciate this reply, it doesn't help either of us to know we aren't alone in this experience but I appreciate the effort it takes to be honest and open about struggles like this. > I'm trying to leave the industry entirely, but even that's more difficult than you'd expect. I still want to code, or at least part of me still thinks it can be an enjoyable thing whether I am paid to do it or not. Its not the work that's the problem, it's the people and how they treat me. You cannot convince someone to "fix" a problem when their salary depends on them being blissfully unaware. Personally, I'm making fishing lures. https://www.verticaltubejig.com https://www.verticaltubejig.com Weather has been shit lately so its been a while since I have been able to get out. Pictures and video of my adventures help me remember it wasn't all a dream. Im so bad at giving myself credit for things. In the depths of despair over my job hunt its been a literal liferaft to keep my head above water to do fishing stuff.