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> A therapist trying to play therapist doesn't usually go well either. I've been in therapy for 7-8 years with 2 therapists (well, 4 but one was a couples ther
by raducu 3y ago
> A therapist trying to play therapist doesn't usually go well either.
I've been in therapy for 7-8 years with 2 therapists (well, 4 but one was a couples therapist and 1 only for a few months).
Therapy(as well as age, medication, stable life, high income, me doing a LOT of reading/active work) has (mostly) cured me of BPD.
But after 1-2 year of therapy with each therapist I feel I don't get much from therapy and the therapist just uses me for a steady income.
There's so much to say about therapists, ideally they would be great and some really are, but therapists also have their own issues, in my country I know A LOT of people who study psychology and want to become psychotherapists primarily to cure their own issues. I know about 10 people that became/are in the process of becoming therapists and I'd only use 1/10's services if I had to.
I'm not saying that to bash therapists, we are all people and have our own issues and therapists don't have to be zen masters in order to help someone and you can learn a lot from different people (provided you have healthy boundaries).
Anyway, as others have said, I feel that after some point therapists get comfortable into a paid-friend role and I'm not ok with that.
- roflc0ptic 3y agoTherapists aren't supposed to use you for steady income. From a good therapist's perspective, if their clients continue to need therapy, they're failing.
- tough 3y agoAnd yet the perversive incentives make them align to just do that. Why would any pharmaceutical invent the cure of a chronic diseases, if they can have you as a customer for life
- winternewt 3y agoThis is certainly a pattern that can set in (and it did last time I saw a therapist). But I do believe a most therapists start out with a good-faith intent to fix people. There's a lack of therapists and a long line of patients waiting for help so it's not like they will be out of a job anyway. The bigger problem is that there's very little scientific rigor in what they do. They don't have enough tools or skills to actually help me, because the science isn't there yet.
- amelius 3y agoMaybe they don't do it for the income but for the intellectual challenge.
- raducu 3y ago> the perversive incentives make them align to just do that. I don't think any therapist actively avoided helping me, but rather at some point they too get comfortable and sort of slack it off like "So what have you been doing/how was your week" sort of thing.
- maleldil 3y agoThere are mental illnesses that don't go away. You can manage them with medication and therapy, so why would you expect such patients to stop going to therapy.
- maleldil 3y ago> Therapy(as well as age, medication, stable life, high income, me doing a LOT of reading/active work) has (mostly) cured me of BPD. What do you mean by BPD? If it's bipolar disorder, can you expand on this? Most of these factors (except income) apply to me, and I wouldn't say I'm mostly cured. I'm much better than I was a few years ago, but I still suffer greatly from it.
- raducu 3y agoNo, I mean borderline personality disorder, bipolar I don't think it goes away with age or therapy.