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Why can't managers come up with a better counterargument other than ad-hominem most of the times when their relevance is challenged - aww you've only had bad ma

Why can't managers come up with a better counterargument other than ad-hominem most of the times when their relevance is challenged - aww you've only had bad managers. you must be new grad to not understand the importance of managers. No matter how much you like to justify the importance of your role, that doesn't change all the fundamental facts about your role. Based on your tone and the way you drive the conversation, I wouldn't be surprised if you are one of those narcissistic managers who think they are people leaders and think you are doing something important, while your reports probably think you are just a useless middleman, but can't voice it because of the power you hold over their career - which is the unfortunate reality. If you think managers are not the primary contributing factor to the mental health issues and the general unhappiness in the workplace, this goes to reinforce the argument that managers are generally tone-deaf. why else would engineers be unhappy unless they get interrupted by sporadic status update requests and their times wasted by useless scrum meetings and 1-1s that managers like you likely are drawn to. No matter how highly you think of your role and how much you think your role is relevant, that doesn't change the fact that if your ICs leave the company, it's most likely going to be because of you. Everything you listed can be done by TLs and can be absorbed by ICs in a holacratic model. if that's all you do, then you are indeed an overpaid useless status update tool bot & message filtering system at best, and a human scarecrow at worst. it's likely that the company can hire store managers from Target and with a little bit of ramp-up they can pretty much do everything your role entails - managing out, asking for status updates, hiring, and delegating scoping and mentoring work to the TLs, sitting in useless meetings all day (and calling it alignment, scoping, and fighting fires and shielding the ICs from politics to feel more relevant about yourself, not acknowledging that shit buffering and politicking exist because managers and modern corporate hierarchy exist) no wonder more and more people are thinking managers are useless if this is the best argument you can come up with. I genuinely hope better people processes and collab tools will make your kind obsolete soon.

dudul 3y ago
And with all these words you were not able to confirm or refute the hypothesis that you are still early in your career and still have a lot to learn. Or maybe you have confirmed it after all.
jmye 3y ago
> Based on your tone and the way you drive the conversation, I wouldn't be surprised if you are one of those narcissistic managers who think they are people leaders and think you are doing something important, while your reports probably think you are just a useless middleman, but can't voice it because of the power you hold over their career - which is the unfortunate reality. So, “you’re a shitty person and everyone hates you because you disagree with me”? And you wonder why you’re not being taken seriously? > Everything you listed can be done by TLs and can be absorbed by ICs in a holacratic model It absolutely cannot, but given that you haven’t articulated a single reason why you believe that’s true and have, instead, gone on another multi-line rant about how incompetent I must be, I don’t think you actually have any idea what you’re talking about. In short, when all you’ve got is high-minded ideals and personal attacks, you might look in the mirror to discover the source of some of your frustration at work. It’s probably not your manager, no matter how stupid you think they are.
- cjstkfpdlel 3y ago
  > So, “you’re a shitty person and everyone hates you because you disagree with me”? And you wonder why you’re not being taken seriously?" you are the one who started the conversation with some childish remark like doing more I"ing then C"ing.now that I took the time out of my day to give you a thoughtful response, you now respond back with another ad-hominem. "and you wonder why you're not being taken seriously?" look at other comments buddy. there are quite a few people agreeing with the post. but if you are a typical line manager or a middle manager, then no wonder you are so blind and can't see it. > It absolutely cannot ... In short, when all you’ve got is high-minded ideals and personal attacks If everyone thought like you in the past, we would still be stuck in monarchy and slavery. Slavery absolutely cannot be replaced. what our king does cannot absolutely be done by an alternative system. Man I can't imagine how human history would have turned out if we only had people like you who oppress and dismiss challenges to the status quo with "absolutely cannot" haha. I feel bad for the people that have to report to you. all the more reason why I am hoping a better alternative system will come sooner to make your kind irrelevant asap.

dudul 3y ago

And with all these words you were not able to confirm or refute the hypothesis that you are still early in your career and still have a lot to learn. Or maybe you have confirmed it after all.

jmye 3y ago

> Based on your tone and the way you drive the conversation, I wouldn't be surprised if you are one of those narcissistic managers who think they are people leaders and think you are doing something important, while your reports probably think you are just a useless middleman, but can't voice it because of the power you hold over their career - which is the unfortunate reality. So, “you’re a shitty person and everyone hates you because you disagree with me”? And you wonder why you’re not being taken seriously? > Everything you listed can be done by TLs and can be absorbed by ICs in a holacratic model It absolutely cannot, but given that you haven’t articulated a single reason why you believe that’s true and have, instead, gone on another multi-line rant about how incompetent I must be, I don’t think you actually have any idea what you’re talking about. In short, when all you’ve got is high-minded ideals and personal attacks, you might look in the mirror to discover the source of some of your frustration at work. It’s probably not your manager, no matter how stupid you think they are.

cjstkfpdlel 3y ago
> So, “you’re a shitty person and everyone hates you because you disagree with me”? And you wonder why you’re not being taken seriously?" you are the one who started the conversation with some childish remark like doing more I"ing then C"ing.now that I took the time out of my day to give you a thoughtful response, you now respond back with another ad-hominem. "and you wonder why you're not being taken seriously?" look at other comments buddy. there are quite a few people agreeing with the post. but if you are a typical line manager or a middle manager, then no wonder you are so blind and can't see it. > It absolutely cannot ... In short, when all you’ve got is high-minded ideals and personal attacks If everyone thought like you in the past, we would still be stuck in monarchy and slavery. Slavery absolutely cannot be replaced. what our king does cannot absolutely be done by an alternative system. Man I can't imagine how human history would have turned out if we only had people like you who oppress and dismiss challenges to the status quo with "absolutely cannot" haha. I feel bad for the people that have to report to you. all the more reason why I am hoping a better alternative system will come sooner to make your kind irrelevant asap.