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Agreed. I know someone who refuses to cook at all under the guise of "anxiety" and I do not understand how some people are fine with not being able to provide f

Agreed. I know someone who refuses to cook at all under the guise of "anxiety" and I do not understand how some people are fine with not being able to provide for themselves on a very basic level. Automate your cooking and meal prep as much as possible and the process becomes quick and easy and you always have tons of food on hand.

bemusedthrow75 3y ago
If you have not experienced food or diet-related anxiety, try not to write it off as being "fine with not being able to provide for themselves on a very basic level". There are several kinds of anxiety/phobia/disorder that leave people unable to cook, and I am sure their anxiety at some level encompasses exactly the thing you think they haven't noticed.
gabereiser 3y ago
What about those that get anxiety when they are in the kitchen due to past trauma or something? To brush them off as “fine with not being able to provide for themselves” is shaming them for having said anxiety. Maybe the last time they were in the kitchen was with Mom when she had her stroke and her face plant into your eggplant is a memory you get every time you see your mixing bowl? Everyone has something, so be kind to those who suffer.
kragen 3y ago
anxiety can be very disabling, and can indeed leave people unable to provide for themselves at a very basic level; they will, as you seem to have correctly inferred, die without support fortunately most of us live in a society, so we don't have to be robinson crusoe or the man of the hole to survive
- slothtrop 3y ago
  > they will, as you seem to have correctly inferred, die without support Is there ever an instance of this happening? Seems to me the issue veers into ptsd/trauma territory if one somehow finds themselves incapable of feeding themselves. Anxiety is an almost banal way to describe it, and I've had an anxiety attack.
  - kragen 3y ago
    > Is there ever an instance of this happening? your question betrays a level of callousness unworthy of a human being > the issue veers into ptsd/trauma territory if one somehow finds themselves incapable of feeding themselves yes, that is one of the numerous psychological disorders that can give rise to such serious levels of dysfunction due to anxiety there are innumerable cases of people dying as a result, including many famous ones, like kurt goedel
    - slothtrop 3y ago
      > your question betrays a level of callousness unworthy of a human being It's not rhetorical, but your feeble projection onto others tells me a lot about you. Yes, how dare one question a person talking out of their ass, only a monster could do that. > kurt goedel Refused to eat food not prepared by his late wife. Obsessive irrational fear is not merely tantamount to "anxiety". Touch grass and take a break from the internet. You might catch a dose of anxiety.
      - dredmorbius 3y ago
        Be kind. Don't be snarky. Converse curiously; don't cross-examine. Edit out swipes. <https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html>
        slothtrop 3y ago
        You respond to my reaction yet not the one who projected "callousness unworthy of a human being". I can't take your criticism seriously.
        dredmorbius 3y ago
        Both criticisms may be fair. And the HN guidelines stand regardless.

bemusedthrow75 3y ago

If you have not experienced food or diet-related anxiety, try not to write it off as being "fine with not being able to provide for themselves on a very basic level". There are several kinds of anxiety/phobia/disorder that leave people unable to cook, and I am sure their anxiety at some level encompasses exactly the thing you think they haven't noticed.

gabereiser 3y ago

What about those that get anxiety when they are in the kitchen due to past trauma or something? To brush them off as “fine with not being able to provide for themselves” is shaming them for having said anxiety. Maybe the last time they were in the kitchen was with Mom when she had her stroke and her face plant into your eggplant is a memory you get every time you see your mixing bowl? Everyone has something, so be kind to those who suffer.

kragen 3y ago

anxiety can be very disabling, and can indeed leave people unable to provide for themselves at a very basic level; they will, as you seem to have correctly inferred, die without support fortunately most of us live in a society, so we don't have to be robinson crusoe or the man of the hole to survive

slothtrop 3y ago
> they will, as you seem to have correctly inferred, die without support Is there ever an instance of this happening? Seems to me the issue veers into ptsd/trauma territory if one somehow finds themselves incapable of feeding themselves. Anxiety is an almost banal way to describe it, and I've had an anxiety attack.
- kragen 3y ago
  > Is there ever an instance of this happening? your question betrays a level of callousness unworthy of a human being > the issue veers into ptsd/trauma territory if one somehow finds themselves incapable of feeding themselves yes, that is one of the numerous psychological disorders that can give rise to such serious levels of dysfunction due to anxiety there are innumerable cases of people dying as a result, including many famous ones, like kurt goedel
  - slothtrop 3y ago
    > your question betrays a level of callousness unworthy of a human being It's not rhetorical, but your feeble projection onto others tells me a lot about you. Yes, how dare one question a person talking out of their ass, only a monster could do that. > kurt goedel Refused to eat food not prepared by his late wife. Obsessive irrational fear is not merely tantamount to "anxiety". Touch grass and take a break from the internet. You might catch a dose of anxiety.
    - dredmorbius 3y ago
      Be kind. Don't be snarky. Converse curiously; don't cross-examine. Edit out swipes. <https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html>
      - slothtrop 3y ago
        You respond to my reaction yet not the one who projected "callousness unworthy of a human being". I can't take your criticism seriously.
        dredmorbius 3y ago
        Both criticisms may be fair. And the HN guidelines stand regardless.