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Basically nothing else in life works that way. If you punch or yell out your anger, you get angrier over time. The biggest predictor of donating to charity is p

by cm2012 3y ago

Basically nothing else in life works that way. If you punch or yell out your anger, you get angrier over time. The biggest predictor of donating to charity is past donations. The more marriages someone has, divorce rate dramatically rises (almost twice as high for a second marriage). I strongly suspect the ladies man, statistically, is more likely to cheat during marriage. Anecdotally, I've been with the same woman since I was 15 and neither of us would dream of cheating.

acuozzo 3y ago
> Basically nothing else in life works that way. Have you never played a song so many times on repeat that, even years later, you're still sick of it? Have you never heard of someone suffering from burnout at work for several years? The things you list in your post are not inherently exhaustible. I'd argue that even though sex is not inherently exhaustible, a craving for sexual variety likely is. Chronic users of pornography often report a dying down in interest after reaching the peak of extreme(s) within their fetish(es).
lordnacho 3y ago
Yeah your logic makes sense. It just doesn't seem to agree with what I see among people I know, admittedly a small section of the world. > I strongly suspect the ladies man, statistically, is more likely to cheat during marriage. The weird thing is that the cheaters I know of are all guys with weak game. It's the opposite of what common sense would suggest, and I'm not sure of the mechanism, other than what I proposed. Perhaps another way to say it is that if you've had enough, you don't think it's worth the risk. I mean to be quite honest, it often isn't even worth the bother when you're a free man.
- ROTMetro 3y ago
  My experience some people with weak game settled with who they thought would take them but aren't 100% happy they did and will jump at expanded opportunity. If I want a Porsche and buy a Toyota it doesn't stop me from wanting a Porsche. If I have a Porsche I get over it and I want a Toyota for my daily vehicle.
Izkata 3y ago
It's common enough it has its own generic word: jaded

by cm2012 3y ago

acuozzo 3y ago

> Basically nothing else in life works that way. Have you never played a song so many times on repeat that, even years later, you're still sick of it? Have you never heard of someone suffering from burnout at work for several years? The things you list in your post are not inherently exhaustible. I'd argue that even though sex is not inherently exhaustible, a craving for sexual variety likely is. Chronic users of pornography often report a dying down in interest after reaching the peak of extreme(s) within their fetish(es).

lordnacho 3y ago

Yeah your logic makes sense. It just doesn't seem to agree with what I see among people I know, admittedly a small section of the world. > I strongly suspect the ladies man, statistically, is more likely to cheat during marriage. The weird thing is that the cheaters I know of are all guys with weak game. It's the opposite of what common sense would suggest, and I'm not sure of the mechanism, other than what I proposed. Perhaps another way to say it is that if you've had enough, you don't think it's worth the risk. I mean to be quite honest, it often isn't even worth the bother when you're a free man.

ROTMetro 3y ago
My experience some people with weak game settled with who they thought would take them but aren't 100% happy they did and will jump at expanded opportunity. If I want a Porsche and buy a Toyota it doesn't stop me from wanting a Porsche. If I have a Porsche I get over it and I want a Toyota for my daily vehicle.

Izkata 3y ago

It's common enough it has its own generic word: jaded