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You’ll have some good peer-reviewed study on this bonding I presume? The kind that factors in how much people lie about this stuff?

by Nursie 3y ago

causality0 3y ago
Wouldn't that just be a statistical law? The Lindy's effect? The more partners you have, the more partners you will have before the end of your life.
alfnor 3y ago
> For women marrying since the start of the new millennium: > Women with 10 or more partners were the most likely to divorce, but this only became true in recent years; > Women with 3-9 partners were less likely to divorce than women with 2 partners; and, > Women with 0-1 partners were the least likely to divorce. https://ifstudies.org/blog/counterintuitive-trends-in-the-link-between-premarital-sex-and-marital-stability https://ifstudies.org/blog/counterintuitive-trends-in-the-li... > In our sample, only 23 percent of the individuals who got married over the course of the study had had sex solely with the person they married. That minority of men and women reported higher marital quality than those who had had sex with other partners prior to marriage. We further found that the more sexual partners a woman had had before marriage, the less happy she reported her marriage to be. This association was not statistically significant for men. https://before-i-do.org/ https://before-i-do.org/ > We investigated sex differences in shoulder to hip ratios (SHR) and waist to hip ratios (WHR), and their relationships to different features of sexual behavior. Males with high SHR and females with low WHR reported sexual intercourse at an earlier age, more sexual partners, more extra-pair copulations (EPC), and having engaged in more instances of intercourse with people who were involved in another relationship (i.e., having themselves been EPC partners). The predictive value of these morphological features was highly sex-specific. https://doi.org/10.1016/S1090-5138(02)00149-6 https://doi.org/10.1016/S1090-5138(02)00149-6 > Past sexual promiscuity and sexual fantasies (Predictions 10 and 11). In both contexts, a partner’s concealed past sexual promiscuity (promiscuity) was rated as one of the more upsetting forms of deception (about 1 SD above the overall mean). Ratings did not differ by sex (ps > .05), failing to support Prediction 10. Prediction 11 was supported in the long term, with men’s ratings of a partner’s concealed sexual fantasies about others (sexual fantasy) relatively higher than women’s. There was no significant sex difference in the short term (p > .05). These results mirror those observed for sexual infidelity and flirtation and further suggest that the risk of cuckoldry constitutes a potent form of strategic interference for men in the long-term mating context. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167204271303 https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167204271303
- Nursie 3y ago
  1. Conservative think-tank, there's a lot missing from their analysis - "women who married as virgins had the lowest divorce rates by far." - this could be explained by things like the coercive social situation they found themselves in. 2. That source seems of questionable quality - https://familyinequality.wordpress.com/2014/08/27/my-rejection-of-the-national-marriage-projects-before-i-do/ https://familyinequality.wordpress.com/2014/08/27/my-rejecti... 3 & 4 - seem irrelevant.
  - mensetmanusman 3y ago
    1. That’s a niche explanation 2. Lots of sources say the same ¾. Arbitrary
- mejutoco 3y ago
  I am assuming those numbers were self-reported. Happy to be corrected otherwise.
- CuriouslyC 3y ago
  People who have more relationship experience can recognize when a relationship isn't living up to what it could be, unexperienced people are just ignorant. It's hard for the grass to always be greener when you live in a windowless box. Attractive people fuck, news at 11. People get jealous/insecure when they feel like they're not living up to their partner's experiences/expectations. This is totally a HUGE problem, and also people should never eat any fancy or exotic food because then they'll be disappointed they can't afford to eat it all the time and affordable food has been ruined forever.
  - bt4u 3y ago
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  - insickness 3y ago
    So you're saying people who have been in fewer relationships are less happy in their relationships. Most of the evidence points to the contrary.

You’ll have some good peer-reviewed study on this bonding I presume? The kind that factors in how much people lie about this stuff?

by Nursie 3y ago

You’ll have some good peer-reviewed study on this bonding I presume? The kind that factors in how much people lie about this stuff?

causality0 3y ago

Wouldn't that just be a statistical law? The Lindy's effect? The more partners you have, the more partners you will have before the end of your life.

alfnor 3y ago

> For women marrying since the start of the new millennium: > Women with 10 or more partners were the most likely to divorce, but this only became true in recent years; > Women with 3-9 partners were less likely to divorce than women with 2 partners; and, > Women with 0-1 partners were the least likely to divorce. https://ifstudies.org/blog/counterintuitive-trends-in-the-link-between-premarital-sex-and-marital-stability https://ifstudies.org/blog/counterintuitive-trends-in-the-li... > In our sample, only 23 percent of the individuals who got married over the course of the study had had sex solely with the person they married. That minority of men and women reported higher marital quality than those who had had sex with other partners prior to marriage. We further found that the more sexual partners a woman had had before marriage, the less happy she reported her marriage to be. This association was not statistically significant for men. https://before-i-do.org/ https://before-i-do.org/ > We investigated sex differences in shoulder to hip ratios (SHR) and waist to hip ratios (WHR), and their relationships to different features of sexual behavior. Males with high SHR and females with low WHR reported sexual intercourse at an earlier age, more sexual partners, more extra-pair copulations (EPC), and having engaged in more instances of intercourse with people who were involved in another relationship (i.e., having themselves been EPC partners). The predictive value of these morphological features was highly sex-specific. https://doi.org/10.1016/S1090-5138(02)00149-6 https://doi.org/10.1016/S1090-5138(02)00149-6 > Past sexual promiscuity and sexual fantasies (Predictions 10 and 11). In both contexts, a partner’s concealed past sexual promiscuity (promiscuity) was rated as one of the more upsetting forms of deception (about 1 SD above the overall mean). Ratings did not differ by sex (ps > .05), failing to support Prediction 10. Prediction 11 was supported in the long term, with men’s ratings of a partner’s concealed sexual fantasies about others (sexual fantasy) relatively higher than women’s. There was no significant sex difference in the short term (p > .05). These results mirror those observed for sexual infidelity and flirtation and further suggest that the risk of cuckoldry constitutes a potent form of strategic interference for men in the long-term mating context. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167204271303 https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167204271303

Nursie 3y ago
1. Conservative think-tank, there's a lot missing from their analysis - "women who married as virgins had the lowest divorce rates by far." - this could be explained by things like the coercive social situation they found themselves in. 2. That source seems of questionable quality - https://familyinequality.wordpress.com/2014/08/27/my-rejection-of-the-national-marriage-projects-before-i-do/ https://familyinequality.wordpress.com/2014/08/27/my-rejecti... 3 & 4 - seem irrelevant.
- mensetmanusman 3y ago
  1. That’s a niche explanation 2. Lots of sources say the same ¾. Arbitrary
mejutoco 3y ago
I am assuming those numbers were self-reported. Happy to be corrected otherwise.
CuriouslyC 3y ago
People who have more relationship experience can recognize when a relationship isn't living up to what it could be, unexperienced people are just ignorant. It's hard for the grass to always be greener when you live in a windowless box. Attractive people fuck, news at 11. People get jealous/insecure when they feel like they're not living up to their partner's experiences/expectations. This is totally a HUGE problem, and also people should never eat any fancy or exotic food because then they'll be disappointed they can't afford to eat it all the time and affordable food has been ruined forever.
- bt4u 3y ago
  [dead]
- insickness 3y ago
  So you're saying people who have been in fewer relationships are less happy in their relationships. Most of the evidence points to the contrary.