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Have kids really bring things into perspective. Every moment with them is unique.
by a_c 3y ago
Have kids really bring things into perspective. Every moment with them is unique.
- weregiraffe 3y agoEvery moment without them is also unique.
- tacitusarc 3y agoEverything is unique, but some are more unique than others.
- throwaway14356 3y agoit is all the same to me
- falcor84 3y agoSome dichotomies are more dichotomous than others.
- bflesch 3y agoHaving kids is such a traumatic, life-changing event. I mean this in the most positive way. I can see why so many people see this as the before/after watershed moment of their lives and ambitions. However, it's understandable that not everyone needs to have kids to come to this realization.
- lovecg 3y agoFor me it was the profound perspective shift from being a leaf node of a tree so to speak to becoming just one link in a long chain. It tends to relax the do-or-die drive quite a bit.
- ambicapter 3y agoMaybe the do-or-die drive is relaxed because you (or your body) realizes that you've fulfilled your biological purpose and passed on your genes?
- Cthulhu_ 3y agoIt also makes it feel all the more exploitative that young developers are encouraged to work long hours and put their everything into their job. And that women are de-incentivized to have children by the market, if not capitalist society at large - don't do it, it'll cost you your career! We only give you two weeks of leave after you gave birth. You can't afford child care, or all your wages would be spent on it! etc.
- OoooooooO 3y agoThat's a US only problem though.
- Mashimo 3y agoYou don't think it's an issue in Japan or south-east Asia?
- Aeolun 3y agoIt’s not, really. Japan is absurdly good if the only thing you want to do is have children, and don’t care too much about how or where they’re schooled. 1 year of leave per child, inability to get fired while on leave, free childcare. The only negative is that all those make advancement options for working age women 25-35 whom are expected to have kids ’soon’ nonexistent.
- Mashimo 3y agoOh sorry, I was talking about the "young developers are encouraged to work long hours part" not the after birth care.
- mensetmanusman 3y agoJapan has the highest fertility rate in Asia now. SK is doomed economically over the next 50 years.
- frenchman99 3y agoIn France, women get 10 weeks & men get 4 weeks paid leave.
- oytis 3y agoYou cannot fully appreciate your moments without kids until you have kids though.
- kerkeslager 3y agoWhy do people feel they can make sweeping assertions about other people's experiences like this? You don't know anything about the lives of the billions of childless people out there. Many of us have livestyles that wouldn't be possible if we had children, and our "moments without kids" are totally, incomparably different from your moments without kids. The smugness of people with kids is just annoying.
- matsemann 3y agoPeople with kids have also been people without kids at some point in their life. So I'd guess they know both perspectives. I didn't read their comment as smugness.