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> One example of this is that I love coaching and mentoring but I hate performance reviewing. And I'm bad at it. I wrote a promotion case for someone that was l

> One example of this is that I love coaching and mentoring but I hate performance reviewing. And I'm bad at it. I wrote a promotion case for someone that was lauded as one of the best of the cycle, but my reviews of substandard reports were met with harsh but fair critique. I'd rather have this, I might the only person, otherwise things are going to take longer and you end up not being that good. I harsh to myself because of this, It's not fun I know. but otherwise....

KnobbleMcKnees 3y ago
It's definitely preferable and the right thing to do, I wouldn't suggest that doing things my way was the right approach just because of my own discomfort. One way I've thought of it recently is in terms of Radical Candor and it's concept of "ruinous empathy": if it means changing myself so significantly in my core beliefs and feelings, I think I'd rather be ruined by empathy. Equally, I need my own manager to not be ruinously empathetic, so I appreciate it makes me a bit of a hypocrite.