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> this is not about the definition of toxic, which is pretty clear and i don't think there is any disagreement about that Ok, then, can you explain to me what
by bheadmaster 3y ago
> this is not about the definition of toxic, which is pretty clear and i don't think there is any disagreement about that
Ok, then, can you explain to me what exactly it means?
Because the rest of your comment kinda boils down to "it means whatever you want it to mean" which renders it effectively meaningless.
- em-bee 3y agothe rest of your comment kinda boils down to "it means whatever you want it to mean" no, it doesn't. i am not talking about the definition of "toxic". i am talking about what is toxic to you or to me. if something is toxic to me, then that doesn't mean it has to be toxic for you. i admit, my original statement was confusing. i didn't mean to say that it matters how toxic is defined, but: "what matters is, what is toxic or hurtful to you" the definition of toxic (or my definition, if you prefer) is that toxic is anything that continuously hurts a relationship. again, what is hurtful to me is not the same thing as what may be hurtful to you. we all have different vulnerabilities, and are bothered or hurt by different things.
- copperx 3y agoThe definition of toxic matters, because finding completely normal behaviors as hurtful might be indicative of a disorder in need of treatment.