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Y'all heard of polyamory? There are better models out there than staying only with one person and denying yourself the beauty of an expanded heart.

by yboris 3y ago

pizzafeelsright 3y ago
Have you found any successful configurations that last beyond 5 years? I know multiple families destroyed by such endeavors. I would caution against the division of affection. At some point a hierarchy is established whether by intent or by necessity.
- altruios 3y ago
  >> Have you found any successful configurations that last beyond 5 years? Several, in the tens of dozens. This question keeps getting 'told at' the polygamous community. It is true, people break up, people in polygamous relations have more breakups because - they involve more people - more people get broken up. And yeah, it is harder: one bad seed ruins the bunch, so to speak, so poly break up happen more often, sure... This kind of 'question' is showing preconceived notions and bigotry that all polygamous relationships are unhealthy. >> At some point a hierarchy is established whether by intent or by necessity. Some people are very anti-hierarchy, and despite your assumptions: hierarchy is not a foregone conclusion. >> I know multiple families destroyed by such endeavors If you start off mono and bring N+1: you're going to have a bad time (more than likely). Poly doesn't fix a broken relationship, and it wasn't poly that was the problem (if poly was being proposed as a solution). >> I would caution against the division of affection. I would caution against withholding love from the world for hierarchical reasons. What's the consequences of withholding affection? A colder/harsher world.
  - vGPU 3y ago
    > tens of dozens. Compared to the hundreds of millions of current non-poly marriages? Regardless, poly is a non-starter without a significant male deficit ie post war that wipes out 20%+ of the male population.
shmde 3y ago
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- unsupp0rted 3y ago
  I have no interest in polyamory but if you're going to call it degeneracy you should explain the reasoning.
- weakfish 3y ago
  This is unhelpful, unconstructive and rude.
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Y'all heard of polyamory? There are better models out there than staying only with one person and denying yourself the beauty of an expanded heart.

by yboris 3y ago

Y'all heard of polyamory? There are better models out there than staying only with one person and denying yourself the beauty of an expanded heart.

pizzafeelsright 3y ago

Have you found any successful configurations that last beyond 5 years? I know multiple families destroyed by such endeavors. I would caution against the division of affection. At some point a hierarchy is established whether by intent or by necessity.

altruios 3y ago
>> Have you found any successful configurations that last beyond 5 years? Several, in the tens of dozens. This question keeps getting 'told at' the polygamous community. It is true, people break up, people in polygamous relations have more breakups because - they involve more people - more people get broken up. And yeah, it is harder: one bad seed ruins the bunch, so to speak, so poly break up happen more often, sure... This kind of 'question' is showing preconceived notions and bigotry that all polygamous relationships are unhealthy. >> At some point a hierarchy is established whether by intent or by necessity. Some people are very anti-hierarchy, and despite your assumptions: hierarchy is not a foregone conclusion. >> I know multiple families destroyed by such endeavors If you start off mono and bring N+1: you're going to have a bad time (more than likely). Poly doesn't fix a broken relationship, and it wasn't poly that was the problem (if poly was being proposed as a solution). >> I would caution against the division of affection. I would caution against withholding love from the world for hierarchical reasons. What's the consequences of withholding affection? A colder/harsher world.
- vGPU 3y ago
  > tens of dozens. Compared to the hundreds of millions of current non-poly marriages? Regardless, poly is a non-starter without a significant male deficit ie post war that wipes out 20%+ of the male population.

shmde 3y ago

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unsupp0rted 3y ago
I have no interest in polyamory but if you're going to call it degeneracy you should explain the reasoning.
weakfish 3y ago
This is unhelpful, unconstructive and rude.

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