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The "emotional control" that causes them to absolutely blow the fuck up? It's not unintelligent, primitive or underdeveloped, it's simply a meme, an idea that s

The "emotional control" that causes them to absolutely blow the fuck up? It's not unintelligent, primitive or underdeveloped, it's simply a meme, an idea that some people can even sincerely believe but at the end it's a pure lie.

lcnPylGDnU4H9OF 3y ago
> blow the fuck up I would consider the possibility of BPD. This is kind of a hallmark symptom. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Borderline_personality_disorder https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Borderline_personality_disor... Point being: I’ve known men who are “stoic” in this way and emotionally stable because they don’t otherwise have mental health issues.
jdietrich 3y ago
Men experience significantly lower rates of most common mental disorders; that gap is wider in younger people, appears to be widening over time and persists after controlling for confounding variables. Men are more likely to die by suicide, but they're drastically less likely to attempt suicide; the discrepancy is accounted for by men choosing more lethal means. There is simply no evidence to support the idea that women are better at coping with psychological distress, or that men would benefit from adopting stereotypically female coping strategies.
- KptMarchewa 3y ago
  >Men experience significantly lower rates of most common mental disorders; Men are diagnosed significantly lower, not experience.
  - disgruntledphd2 3y ago
    Well we don't really know, as we have no blind test for this. Science on humans is hard.
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friend_and_foe 3y ago
I've known men that blow up in extremely stressful circumstances, like slapping things off the table or the stereotypical punching a hole in the wall, for me it is a sign of emotional immaturity. When you're 20 if you do it you've still got some growing up to do, when you're 30 and you do it honestly I judge you. And I know some circumstances can be extremely taxing emotionally, and in very extreme circumstances I can understand losing composure a little, but generally speaking a man should maintain his composure and only react aggressively to actual aggression.
- ragequittah 3y ago
  As someone who would've never done this age 10-40, experienced extremely severe trauma at age 40, then started having uncontrollable rage fits age 40-43 (it's mostly subsided now, but I still do get more irritated than I used to) I wouldn't be so quick to judge. I thought the same as you before something happened, but it turns out PTSD is a hellofa drug. It's not something you're able control. I didn't learn my way out of it through maturity, I grinded my way through it losing friends along the way. I have no idea what caused me to stop either, other than just distance from the trauma.
dahwolf 3y ago
That would be the opposite of emotional control. But surely you got the point that besides suppressing emotions men also tend to simply have less emotional needs or desires to express them. To bring this down to a real world meme-like example: my girlfriend can fill a solid hour every day discussing her work day and in particular developments in her dealings with colleagues. I struggle to fill a minute. I'm not suppressing anything, there's simply not much there as it comes to work. These are just differences, nothing wrong with it.

lcnPylGDnU4H9OF 3y ago

> blow the fuck up I would consider the possibility of BPD. This is kind of a hallmark symptom. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Borderline_personality_disorder https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Borderline_personality_disor... Point being: I’ve known men who are “stoic” in this way and emotionally stable because they don’t otherwise have mental health issues.

jdietrich 3y ago

Men experience significantly lower rates of most common mental disorders; that gap is wider in younger people, appears to be widening over time and persists after controlling for confounding variables. Men are more likely to die by suicide, but they're drastically less likely to attempt suicide; the discrepancy is accounted for by men choosing more lethal means. There is simply no evidence to support the idea that women are better at coping with psychological distress, or that men would benefit from adopting stereotypically female coping strategies.

KptMarchewa 3y ago
>Men experience significantly lower rates of most common mental disorders; Men are diagnosed significantly lower, not experience.
- disgruntledphd2 3y ago
  Well we don't really know, as we have no blind test for this. Science on humans is hard.
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friend_and_foe 3y ago

I've known men that blow up in extremely stressful circumstances, like slapping things off the table or the stereotypical punching a hole in the wall, for me it is a sign of emotional immaturity. When you're 20 if you do it you've still got some growing up to do, when you're 30 and you do it honestly I judge you. And I know some circumstances can be extremely taxing emotionally, and in very extreme circumstances I can understand losing composure a little, but generally speaking a man should maintain his composure and only react aggressively to actual aggression.

ragequittah 3y ago
As someone who would've never done this age 10-40, experienced extremely severe trauma at age 40, then started having uncontrollable rage fits age 40-43 (it's mostly subsided now, but I still do get more irritated than I used to) I wouldn't be so quick to judge. I thought the same as you before something happened, but it turns out PTSD is a hellofa drug. It's not something you're able control. I didn't learn my way out of it through maturity, I grinded my way through it losing friends along the way. I have no idea what caused me to stop either, other than just distance from the trauma.

dahwolf 3y ago

That would be the opposite of emotional control. But surely you got the point that besides suppressing emotions men also tend to simply have less emotional needs or desires to express them. To bring this down to a real world meme-like example: my girlfriend can fill a solid hour every day discussing her work day and in particular developments in her dealings with colleagues. I struggle to fill a minute. I'm not suppressing anything, there's simply not much there as it comes to work. These are just differences, nothing wrong with it.