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It's not hard to find "Why is my boyfriend/husband so cheap?" as a recurring question in advice columns. There's definitely a sense among many women that men s

It's not hard to find "Why is my boyfriend/husband so cheap?" as a recurring question in advice columns. There's definitely a sense among many women that men should be demonstrably spendy - even flamboyant. Presumably because it confers competitive status. I used to have a friend who used to do factory work. She said that whenever any of the women had a new boyfriend one of the first questions was always "What kind of car does he drive?" Likewise many dating profiles say "I want a man who will spoil me." Of course it's not all women, but it's certainly a significant number.

monksy 3y ago
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- imtringued 3y ago
  Or "Give me love and money"
amanaplanacanal 3y ago
There is no way I would ever want to date those women. Come on guys, there are a lot of fish in the sea! Find someone who shares your values.
midoridensha 3y ago
>Likewise many dating profiles say "I want a man who will spoil me." "Looking for a man who is $trait, $trait, and generous."
- asjfka 3y ago
  When I was dating, I honestly thought that such verbiage was a code for signaling they were hookers without getting removed. I automatically discarded those profiles.
  - kar5pt 3y ago
    I think a lot of times it is. Either that or they want a sugar daddy.
renewiltord 3y ago
Surely that illustrates the opposite: if women in relationships are complaining about their partners not spending enough that means they're usually forming relationships without that as a selection criteria. If it were, it cannot be the chief complaint because those boys would have no girls.