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Having kids is way more rewarding than working on any software project. You'll enjoy raising the kids unless you have some kind of personality disorder. Also,

by winrid 3y ago

Having kids is way more rewarding than working on any software project. You'll enjoy raising the kids unless you have some kind of personality disorder. Also, I have a newborn and I work in my projects just fine. [0] Manage your time :) I would also say that a lot of the time you see that drop-off because having kids is more rewarding than the project, not really because they don't have any time for it. [0] https://github.com/netpanzer/netpanzer/pull/4 https://github.com/netpanzer/netpanzer/pull/4

peddling-brink 3y ago
Rudeness aside, if you only have a newborn you may find yourself eating these words in the near, and medium term future.
doctor_eval 3y ago
OMG. Newborn is the easy part. Especially if you’re the bloke.
- winrid 3y ago
  Breastfeeding is indeed a lot of work. To try to be even, I do everything else. I wish I could do more, she certainly deserves it. We joked I could get hormones...
  - doctor_eval 3y ago
    Just you wait until they're teenagers.
    - winrid 3y ago
      How could teenagers possibly take all your time? Surely they should be socializing? Like I was mowing lawns by myself unsupervised at 10, what are people doing with their kids all day? :D you have to cook food and provide structure, but...
      - winrid 3y ago
        Oh you mean how tough teenage years are. No sense worring about that.
    - winrid 3y ago
      I am actually excited for the teenager years. I can teach them how to properly drive and slide around a car :)
StrictDabbler 3y ago
"You'll enjoy raising the kids unless you have some kind of personality disorder" is one of the most unpleasant, exclusionary and normative things I've read in a long time. You are talking about 20% of the population. More than any other minority group in America. [0] That is large enough to be a perfectly ordinary slice of human variety. Even if you object to that study's methods it is a huge chunk of the populace. The portion of the population that doesn't want to and will not enjoy raising children is also a group of people who should not be parents, obviously. Describing them as having a "personality disorder" achieves what? At best, it pressures probable bad parents into reproducing.... or is that at worst? Being aware that one won't find raising children rewarding and responding appropriately is highly moral. It isn't a mental illness. And this nasty, toxic approach to 1/5th of your fellow humans is just something you toss off dismissively in a thread about video game modding? This is the behavior of a person who ostensibly does not have a personality disorder? [0] https://msutoday.msu.edu/news/2023/childfree-study-confirmed-April2023#:~:text=1%20in%205%20adults%20don,later%20%7C%20MSUToday%20%7C%20Michigan%20State%20University https://msutoday.msu.edu/news/2023/childfree-study-confirmed...

by winrid 3y ago

peddling-brink 3y ago

Rudeness aside, if you only have a newborn you may find yourself eating these words in the near, and medium term future.

doctor_eval 3y ago

OMG. Newborn is the easy part. Especially if you’re the bloke.

winrid 3y ago
Breastfeeding is indeed a lot of work. To try to be even, I do everything else. I wish I could do more, she certainly deserves it. We joked I could get hormones...
- doctor_eval 3y ago
  Just you wait until they're teenagers.
  - winrid 3y ago
    How could teenagers possibly take all your time? Surely they should be socializing? Like I was mowing lawns by myself unsupervised at 10, what are people doing with their kids all day? :D you have to cook food and provide structure, but...
    - winrid 3y ago
      Oh you mean how tough teenage years are. No sense worring about that.
  - winrid 3y ago
    I am actually excited for the teenager years. I can teach them how to properly drive and slide around a car :)

StrictDabbler 3y ago

"You'll enjoy raising the kids unless you have some kind of personality disorder" is one of the most unpleasant, exclusionary and normative things I've read in a long time. You are talking about 20% of the population. More than any other minority group in America. [0] That is large enough to be a perfectly ordinary slice of human variety. Even if you object to that study's methods it is a huge chunk of the populace. The portion of the population that doesn't want to and will not enjoy raising children is also a group of people who should not be parents, obviously. Describing them as having a "personality disorder" achieves what? At best, it pressures probable bad parents into reproducing.... or is that at worst? Being aware that one won't find raising children rewarding and responding appropriately is highly moral. It isn't a mental illness. And this nasty, toxic approach to 1/5th of your fellow humans is just something you toss off dismissively in a thread about video game modding? This is the behavior of a person who ostensibly does not have a personality disorder? [0] https://msutoday.msu.edu/news/2023/childfree-study-confirmed-April2023#:~:text=1%20in%205%20adults%20don,later%20%7C%20MSUToday%20%7C%20Michigan%20State%20University https://msutoday.msu.edu/news/2023/childfree-study-confirmed...