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> it's like dating ... Hiding who you really are to 'pass' is a bad foundation. you'd be surprised at the amount of people who fake themselves for the date.
by chii 3y ago
> it's like dating ... Hiding who you really are to 'pass' is a bad foundation.
you'd be surprised at the amount of people who fake themselves for the date.
- drekipus 3y agoAnd continuing into the resulting relationships
- bheadmaster 3y agoTo be fair, not all of us can be socially competent mentally healthy people who enjoy life and regularly stop to smell the flowers. Some of us just suck, some of us are miserable, so we have to put on a fake persona in order to entertain the other person enough for them to actually give us a chance. In a way, dating is all about entertaining and being entertained. It's either that or stay lonely.
- dublinben 3y agoThe better alternative is to work on yourself to become a better person, who is worthy of dating without deception.
- bheadmaster 3y agoYou are implicitly assuming that there's some finite amount of work that could make every such person "dateable without deception". While it may or may not be true in individual case, as a general statement it sounds to me more like "well, it's _your_ fault because you didn't work on yourself enough, so you deserve to be lonely".
- gedy 3y agoI think many folks are there for sex, and have no problem faking to get it.
- devnullbrain 3y agoIt's still a bad foundation
- ozim 3y agoThat is why you are not supposed to marry after first date ;)