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Thank you, it sound to me like meditation could be a way of developing an anti-fragile attitude?

by molly0 3y ago

ethanbond 3y ago
Strong yes^ I can point to several instances where my meditation practice helped me to slow down enough to respond to a situation constructively rather than react to it destructively. I’ll also add that journaling is an absolute game changer in terms of actually debugging/thinking through problems. Meditation = “give this a minute or day to simmer” Journaling = “now that I’ve cooled down, what are my actual thoughts on this matter” I’ve been astounded on dozens of occasions to learn what my own thoughts really are, for the first time, by seeing them on paper. I.e. it subjectively feels like I don’t think the thought then write it, but instead I write it, read it, then think it.
leohonexus 3y ago
I would recommend "Focusing in Clinical Practice: The Essence of Change"[1] if you're into reading books. I once took a semester-long course on emotional-based therapy taught by one of its practitioners and it really helped in processing and engaging with my own emotions. One of the core techniques is to visualize the emotion as another person as you try to talk to it and discover more about what it is you're feeling, eventually coming to a strong connection with the feeling. It's been an epiphany trying to process emotions this way for me. [1] https://www.amazon.com/Focusing-Clinical-Practice-Essence-Change/dp/0393707601 https://www.amazon.com/Focusing-Clinical-Practice-Essence-Ch...
noisy_boy 3y ago
On that topic, I would love to hear from folks who introduced/did meditation to/with their children (say about 11-12 years old)? Is it a good idea? How did it turn out for you?
- hutzlibu 3y ago
  You can introduce them to meditation from early age on, they just usually lack the patience to do it for longer or intense, when they are small. I myself started meditating on my own, when I was 11/12 so that is definitely an age, when you can do it serious. My own kids (< 5) are too small yet, that I would do serious meditating with them, but some sort of pre exercises, like just sitting still in nature and observing, do work since the beginning. Don't push them obviously. Rather give them a chance, to explore mindfulness and consciousness with you. I can also recommend Tai Chi/Qui Gong as an more active path towards it.
kukkeliskuu 3y ago
Yes, I believe meditation would be useful for you. There are many kinds of meditation, and I have experience only on very basic "sitting". Others have suggested developing compassion, and I know some have found compassion meditation helpful in developing that, but I don't have the first-hand experience. I have found meditation to help me to stay calm in situations, and even if I am about to get angry, to become aware of it in situations, so I can remove myself from situation before acting. And also to calm down more quickly. When you can process the criticism from a better place in yourself. Also, I have found tai chi to be have similar effect on me.

Thank you, it sound to me like meditation could be a way of developing an anti-fragile attitude?

by molly0 3y ago

Thank you, it sound to me like meditation could be a way of developing an anti-fragile attitude?

Strong yes^ I can point to several instances where my meditation practice helped me to slow down enough to respond to a situation constructively rather than react to it destructively. I’ll also add that journaling is an absolute game changer in terms of actually debugging/thinking through problems. Meditation = “give this a minute or day to simmer” Journaling = “now that I’ve cooled down, what are my actual thoughts on this matter” I’ve been astounded on dozens of occasions to learn what my own thoughts really are, for the first time, by seeing them on paper. I.e. it subjectively feels like I don’t think the thought then write it, but instead I write it, read it, then think it.

leohonexus 3y ago

I would recommend "Focusing in Clinical Practice: The Essence of Change"[1] if you're into reading books. I once took a semester-long course on emotional-based therapy taught by one of its practitioners and it really helped in processing and engaging with my own emotions. One of the core techniques is to visualize the emotion as another person as you try to talk to it and discover more about what it is you're feeling, eventually coming to a strong connection with the feeling. It's been an epiphany trying to process emotions this way for me. [1] https://www.amazon.com/Focusing-Clinical-Practice-Essence-Change/dp/0393707601 https://www.amazon.com/Focusing-Clinical-Practice-Essence-Ch...

noisy_boy 3y ago

On that topic, I would love to hear from folks who introduced/did meditation to/with their children (say about 11-12 years old)? Is it a good idea? How did it turn out for you?

hutzlibu 3y ago
You can introduce them to meditation from early age on, they just usually lack the patience to do it for longer or intense, when they are small. I myself started meditating on my own, when I was 11/12 so that is definitely an age, when you can do it serious. My own kids (< 5) are too small yet, that I would do serious meditating with them, but some sort of pre exercises, like just sitting still in nature and observing, do work since the beginning. Don't push them obviously. Rather give them a chance, to explore mindfulness and consciousness with you. I can also recommend Tai Chi/Qui Gong as an more active path towards it.

kukkeliskuu 3y ago

Yes, I believe meditation would be useful for you. There are many kinds of meditation, and I have experience only on very basic "sitting". Others have suggested developing compassion, and I know some have found compassion meditation helpful in developing that, but I don't have the first-hand experience. I have found meditation to help me to stay calm in situations, and even if I am about to get angry, to become aware of it in situations, so I can remove myself from situation before acting. And also to calm down more quickly. When you can process the criticism from a better place in yourself. Also, I have found tai chi to be have similar effect on me.