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How is your partner/kids?

tivert 3y ago
> How is your partner/kids? Great, but it's a pretty isolating idea that you should spend all your time with the same few people. It's nice and healthy to context-switch and spend some time around different people.
- willcipriano 3y ago
  You don't spend time with friends?
  - refulgentis 3y ago
    They edited to make it less confusing / sarcastic, tl;dr they're lecturing people, with a family, who don't want to RTO, who think you only need to socialize with family
  - yieldcrv 3y ago
    One thing I like about office environments is the spontaneity possible Lunch? After work? 1 on 1s walking around the block and seeing this cool cafe that closes at 2pm? That’s just not possible to do in most friend groups I don’t even like coworkers but can acknowledge this easily
    - Freedom2 3y ago
      Why is it not possible? There have been countless times where co-workers have booked in time on the calendar (for observability for the team) to meet up with a friend for lunch, or to even meet up after work and support local businesses around their home.
      - yieldcrv 3y ago
        Because it’s not spontaneous what they are doing, it requires planning and coordination in direct contrast to spontaneity with coworkers There isn’t anything wrong with planning and coordinating, it is simply not spontaneous and has no similarity in energy expenditure and availability
        Freedom2 3y ago
        Felt pretty spontaneous to me: "My friend just messaged me, we're going to a new cafe that opened up near my house." Or is that too much planning for you?
        yieldcrv 3y ago
        What is the point of your response, in your own words
    - jimmydddd 3y ago
      Re: "1 on 1s walking around the block and seeing this cool cafe that closes at 2pm?" That does sound nice. All of my in office jobs were sitting at my desk staring at a computer for 8 hours. No one was walking around the block. :-) But that was over ten years ago.
  - nchie 3y ago
    Not during office hours, no. Do you?
    - willcipriano 3y ago
      Haven't worked with many people I'd spend time with outside of work
- refulgentis 3y ago
  Pointing out that this isn't OP -- took me a minute, I was confused by the tone switch from 'there's nuance here and its conditional based on current circumstances' to chiding of a position no ones advanced. And I'm very much RTO crew! Who is calm about it because of exactly that conditionality on current circumstances.

> How is your partner/kids? Great, but it's a pretty isolating idea that you should spend all your time with the same few people. It's nice and healthy to context-switch and spend some time around different people.

willcipriano 3y ago
You don't spend time with friends?
- refulgentis 3y ago
  They edited to make it less confusing / sarcastic, tl;dr they're lecturing people, with a family, who don't want to RTO, who think you only need to socialize with family
- yieldcrv 3y ago
  One thing I like about office environments is the spontaneity possible Lunch? After work? 1 on 1s walking around the block and seeing this cool cafe that closes at 2pm? That’s just not possible to do in most friend groups I don’t even like coworkers but can acknowledge this easily
  - Freedom2 3y ago
    Why is it not possible? There have been countless times where co-workers have booked in time on the calendar (for observability for the team) to meet up with a friend for lunch, or to even meet up after work and support local businesses around their home.
    - yieldcrv 3y ago
      Because it’s not spontaneous what they are doing, it requires planning and coordination in direct contrast to spontaneity with coworkers There isn’t anything wrong with planning and coordinating, it is simply not spontaneous and has no similarity in energy expenditure and availability
      - Freedom2 3y ago
        Felt pretty spontaneous to me: "My friend just messaged me, we're going to a new cafe that opened up near my house." Or is that too much planning for you?
        yieldcrv 3y ago
        What is the point of your response, in your own words
  - jimmydddd 3y ago
    Re: "1 on 1s walking around the block and seeing this cool cafe that closes at 2pm?" That does sound nice. All of my in office jobs were sitting at my desk staring at a computer for 8 hours. No one was walking around the block. :-) But that was over ten years ago.
- nchie 3y ago
  Not during office hours, no. Do you?
  - willcipriano 3y ago
    Haven't worked with many people I'd spend time with outside of work
refulgentis 3y ago
Pointing out that this isn't OP -- took me a minute, I was confused by the tone switch from 'there's nuance here and its conditional based on current circumstances' to chiding of a position no ones advanced. And I'm very much RTO crew! Who is calm about it because of exactly that conditionality on current circumstances.