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One Day You'll Find Yourself
- snapcaster 3y agoI'm really surprised by all the comments. Do people actually disagree with any of these? These are all great tips and if you follow them people will like and respect you more
- rchaud 3y agoIt's the presentation and tone that's off-putting. There's nothing here that your parents or mentors haven't already told you. That was at least communicated in good faith. This looks and reads like a vanity project made by a person with a superiority complex.
- sasaf5 3y ago> One day you’ll find yourself wanting washboard abs. Wait it out. Worrying about your abs is unbecoming after the age of 35, and achieving a six-pack only means you’ll eventually be a guy who once had a six-pack. It's sad to place that line at age 35... your abs are there, they will invariably show up when your body fat is nearing 10%. Getting there becomes a bit more difficult with age due to metabolism, but only slightly so... It is one of the easiest goals of body building, and one of the coolest too.
- sasaf5 3y agohttps://www.onedayyoullfindyourself.com/rehearsing-an-argument.html https://www.onedayyoullfindyourself.com/rehearsing-an-argume... It took me time and pain to learn this one. I was immediately happier after I did. I am not sure I would have had the same insight just from reading the book though, but I like to think that I would.
- numbers 3y agoCan’t get past the first page on mobile
- lisasays 3y agoSpending all day, chewing through one clickbait-y link after another - desperate seeking the next endorphin rush. Like a rat, in cage, in some professor's deranged behavioral experiment.
- cellularmitosis 3y agoNice book, but I can't stand this sort of presentation. One tiny morsel per page, with hundreds of clicks to get through it all. A lot of people who make online FAQs are also guilty of this.
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- musicale 3y agoList of 100 things on 100 different pages rather than a single page of text. Click to continue. Though usually this sort of time-wasting is driven by advertisement impressions.
- rchaud 3y agoIt's an extremely old-fashioned style of web design, back when bandwidth was low and webmasters split content across multiple pages, so as to increase load times by placing a lot of text and images into a single page. Completely unnecessary in this day and age, 3G is slowest wireless network still in use, and can easily serve text and images quickly.
- Timwi 3y agoEven in the 90s when connections were super slow, I've always disagreed with this mantra. Firstly, even if the whole page takes long to load, the browser will display the start of the page exactly as quickly as it would if the page ended there. (Give or take.) Secondly, splitting into multiple pages prevents me from loading it in a background tab and reading it later.
- rektide 3y agoFun little index of behaviors & situations. Often just straight good basic advice, sometimes cheeky. Example: > one day you’ll find yourself working for an incompetent boss. No doubt you’ll find this inconvenient, but be thankful you’re not among the unlucky men whose incompetent bosses were the sergeants, lieutenants, or generals who led them to war. Yikes! This kind of compilation is what I rather expect we should train AGI on. Being able to recognize identify & understand variance of human situations like this. This kind of thing, and tvtropes, which is the most valuable index of human behavior we have, I think, with the bonus of endless citations.
- egypturnash 3y agoOne day you’ll find yourself opening a golf umbrella. If you’re not standing on a golf course or in your own backyard, you’re everything that’s wrong with the world. ok grandpa, what if I'm an adult with a surly child, or if I'm sharing this umbrella with a big bag, a friend, and their big bag?
- egypturnash 3y agoOne day you’ll find yourself thinking about quitting a new job. By quitting, you’ll ensure the job won’t work out. By staying a bit longer, though, you’ll at least allow the possibility that it might. And most do. Surely you'll never find yourself in a situation where the job is actively destroying other parts of your life. Surely you'll never find yourself in a situation where the boss is using their position to extract sexual favors from you. Surely you'll never find yourself in a situation where your job is actively detrimental to the world at large, and is making you enough money that you begin to want to shrug and say "everyone does it". Wait, I'm pretty sure it sounds like Grandpa here has done exactly that last one.
- selimthegrim 3y ago>Surely you'll never find yourself in a situation where the job is actively destroying other parts of your life. Can confirm.
- egypturnash 3y agoone day you’ll find yourself dressing for a flight. Take a stand against casualness and wear a blazer. The pockets are handy for tickets and passports, and you may as well look good—the person sitting next to you could be single. jesus grandpa, I am an adult woman who has taken many flights while single and lemme tell you, the last damn thing I want to think about while I'm flying is flirting with the dude crammed in the seat next to me, I just want to take a nap and get off this nightmare vibrating stress tube ASAP.
- Mistletoe 3y agoI can't think of anything I would hate more on a crowded hot flight than wearing a blazer.
- gameman144 3y agoThis is a neat idea, but I can't get past how self-important some of these sound. For example, the shaking a handful of nuts: > You also might find yourself leaning back and lacing your fingers behind your head. Regardless, both are the self-satisfied poses of bros, so quit it. Maybe this is the shtick, but it's a real turnoff for me personally.
- throwaway98797 3y agofeels like it was written by one of the most repugnant characters of fountainhead ellsworth toohey
- waboremo 3y agoCompletely different from my expectations of the title. A nice little book, reminds me of the popular series "Dad, How Do I?" on YouTube (and I'm sure other places) where the creator offers general advice like "How do I wear a suit" to other men who may not have had someone to give such advice to them.
- BMc2020 3y agoIt seems to be in the middle of the hug of death, maybe later. I did scan the list and was disappointed to not find 'living in a shotgun shack'.
- trgn 3y agoUnless there's a metaphorical meaning that I don't know about, but shotgun home layouts are da bomb. Highly recommend.
- repler 3y agoIt’s the lyrics from a Talking Heads song, “Once in a lifetime”
- chasd00 3y agoI was thinking Loveshack by the B52s
- BMc2020 3y agoThe best song I have ever heard about unplanned pregnancy.
- asdfman123 3y agoThey also have the best song about rocks that turn out to be lobsters. Admittedly, it isn’t a very crowded field.
- BMc2020 3y agoInteresting trip down the internet rabbit hole https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shotgun_house https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shotgun_house He also stated that the term "shotgun" is a reference to the idea that if all the doors are opened, a shotgun blast fired into the house from the front doorway will fly cleanly to the other end and out at the back.
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- bjourne 3y ago> One day you'll find yourself considering whether to bike to work or not, and the thought of arriving sweaty and tired may hold you back. But let me tell you, the benefits of biking far outweigh the temporary discomfort of sweat. The fresh air, exercise, and feeling of freedom that comes with riding a bike can set the tone for your entire day. Plus, you'll be doing your part to reduce traffic congestion and air pollution. So, don't let the fear of sweat hold you back from experiencing the joy of biking to work. Give it a try and see how it can transform your daily routine and overall wellbeing.
- slashdev 3y agoThat’s all great, but it will also shorten your life span. People drive like shit and if you’re on the road with them every day you’re going to get hit sooner or later. The odds aren’t great. I would only do this in a place with separate bike lanes.
- bequanna 3y agoIt’s true. It can be dangerous riding a bike on a road meant for cars. Some accidents happen even when the bicyclist or car driver made no obvious mistakes.
- imgabe 3y agoSitting in a car also shortens your life and exercise extends your life. You have to weigh the benefits against the risk. There is a lot you can do to avoid getting hit by cars.
- ehPReth 3y agoI hope I'll find myself dead, sooner rather than later :(
- danparsonson 3y agoSorry to hear about that - do you have someone you can talk to?
- ehPReth 3y agopsychiatrist I suppose.. it's a long sad road
- danparsonson 3y agoOK - I wish you the very best and hope you find your way through it soon. A difficult road it may be but it shows a lot of strength that you're walking it.
- pastacacioepepe 3y agoBest single piece of advice: Drinking at an Office Party one day you’ll find yourself drinking at an office party. Want to be an observer of the inevitable shit show rather than the star? Skip the liquor and drink only beer or wine. extra points Only amateurs call in sick the morning after an office party.
- coffeebeqn 3y agoHah don’t most people get the hint from their body by their 30s anyway? I don’t know anyone who still drinks heavily and I knew some very heavy drinkers in their 20s
- strken 3y agoOr you can just get a neat whiskey then spend an hour or two sipping it. It's neat, so there's no ice to melt nor carbon dioxide to separate, and nobody can tell how long you've had it. The only downside is defending it from over-zealous waiters.
- Doxin 3y agoApple juice in a whiskey glass is a good one too. People just sort of assume the alcohol content. Or if you're in a place where they sell ginger beer that's a good one too. Looks like it probably ought to be alcoholic, has "beer" in the name, but is alcohol free.
- DrFunke 3y ago>One day you’ll find yourself watching fireworks. Don’t be a cynic—fireworks can be enjoyed at any age. Oh, you don't want me to be a cynic? Weird, because this is the most cynical GQ piece of trash I've read in recent memory.
- todfox 3y agoAnd yet... >One day you’ll find yourself wearing shorts. Fair enough, it’s probably hot out. One day you’ll also find yourself wearing a t-shirt. Again, fair enough. Unless you’re playing a sport, however, you will not be wearing the two together because you’re also no longer a ten-year-old boy. Fucking boomer hypocrite. btw I am wearing shorts as I type this.
- nemo 3y ago>one day you’ll find yourself saying thank you. It doesn’t mean anything without eye contact, so look up from your phone when you say it. Autistic person here, nope. It still means something even if you have trouble regulating eye contact.
- emmelaich 3y agoLots of people won't even hear it if you don't raise your head. Raising your head - even briefly - is better option than shouting.
- unethical_ban 3y agoEye contact is an inmate human connection and it is good advice to give by default.
- lxgr 3y agoThere are various reasons to not seek or avoid eye contact, and somehow I'd bet that "not knowing/never having heard about eye contact" is not the most probable one on average. In fact, for many of the top reasons, "you should make eye contact" is probably completely useless advice at best.
- unethical_ban 3y ago>There are various reasons to not seek or avoid eye contact Social anxiety, autism, lying, not actually being present in a moment. Some good reasons, some bad. Repeating social norms is not useless.
- JenrHywy 3y agoIt might still mean something to the giver, but far less to the receiver.
- xboxnolifes 3y agoMaybe the receiver should be advised on that.
- Mizza 3y agoBoomer advice handbook? Why bother. Instead, become actively deranged. Send unlabeled vials of your hair to state senators. Stockpile canned beetroots. Wear a reflective helmet everywhere you go. Fall in love with a pigeon. Shave the left side of your body. Dig a gigantic hole on publicly owned land. Leave clues. Nothing matters.
- sammalloy 3y agoThe problem is most people read "The road of excess leads to the palace of wisdom" (line 3) and neglect line 46: "You never know what is enough unless you know what is more than enough."
- rippercushions 3y agoModeration in all things, including moderation.
- 50 3y agothe impossibility of being human[1] indeed! 1: https://allpoetry.com/poem/10257717-Beasts-Bounding-Through-Time-by-Charles-Bukowski https://allpoetry.com/poem/10257717-Beasts-Bounding-Through-...
- 2h 3y agocrappy design, here is the proper URL: https://www.onedayyoullfindyourself.com/table-of-contents.html https://www.onedayyoullfindyourself.com/table-of-contents.ht...
- thenerdhead 3y ago> one day you’ll find yourself reading the internet. Don’t forget to occasionally read a book as well. Yeah. Go read a book, not this comment!
- foobar12121212 3y agoOne day you'll find yourself spending several weeks making a "PWA book framework". When you do this, keep in mind that text is small and the network is slow, so store the whole book on one webpage and do pagination by switching which parts are visible. This way, the PWA book will be much more responsive and it will also work offline.
- lxgr 3y agoOne day, you might even discover ePub.
- zoogeny 3y agoI can't put my finger on why, but even though I agree with some of this advice - I don't like this person.
- wilg 3y agoI agree much of it is insufferable: > One day you’ll find yourself saying “like” a lot. Please stop. If this generation can’t quit the habit, we’ll eventually have an American president who speaks that way too. People who think this way really grind my gears. I especially enjoy that, like, there's no explanation for why this would be a problem.
- sasaf5 3y agoAs someone who gets deeply irritated by filler words, I will try to tell you why it makes me feel like that. People who abuse filler words do so to keep the line busy because they fear being interrupted. Their speech is a continuous and anxious stream of poorly formed sentences without regard for the listener. Trying to listen to them feels like taking a ride with a brake-happy, inexperienced driver.
- Timwi 3y agoYou seem to have successfully identified the core issue, and it's not the filler words.
- toadi 3y agoIsn't that bit the same as when people use the word literally but not meaning literally? It grinds your gears but who am I to tell people how to speak?
- siwatanejo 3y agoAnd what about people filming vertical videos? There's like, literally millions of things you could mention that are cringy to others.
- strken 3y agoSome of these are very silly. There's nothing wrong with golf umbrellas unless you're in a crowded place; pointing is fine, so long as you're not pointing at something with feelings; the advice on accepting compliments doesn't mention why you should accept and move on (it's because deflecting makes the other person compliment you even more, which is narcissistic); at least half my female friends laugh at or are offended by faux-gallantry like going through a door first, even though they appreciate actually important things like waiting with them until their ride home arrives; urinal etiquette is contextual, and at a music festival after 12am it's probably rude not to talk; ordering everything medium-rare fails to take into account the unique qualities of the cut of meat; you can eat oysters however you want, and there's nothing wrong with mingonette nor other vinegar-based garnishes; and so on for all the rest.
- IAmGraydon 3y agoOne Day This Website Will Load
- motohagiography 3y agoThis is sublime. The transition to modern is just beautiful. I actually knew people who wrote etiquette columns back when it was still an actual newspaper job, I even wrote a few myself, and the design and simplicity of these statements are like koans. It's probably too late for most of you, but if you have kids, someone who knows this stuff is welcome everywhere in the world.
- highwayman47 3y agoI wish this was YouTube video instead
- rchaud 3y agoI don't. It would mess up my algorithm for weeks. Stuff like this, while itself harmless, is just a stone's throw away from manosphere sigma male garbage targeted at 20 year olds who don't know any better.
- wilg 3y agoIf you want to make a static site that loads quickly (unlike this one), I recommend GitHub Pages! Free, SSL, custom domain, easy deploy, super fast, CDN, etc.
- hablog 3y agoPeople have to internalize that for a site like this, 99% of your traffic will arrive in 0.1% of the time your site is up. Unless you want to lose the vast majority of people who would otherwise read your content, you need to pick a server that can handle many orders of magnitude higher than baseline load!
- asdfman123 3y agoThat’s survivorship bias though: only true for sites that make it big. 99% of them won’t get much traffic at any point, and for them any form of hosting will do.
- frickinadorable 3y agoIndeed but those sites failed. So if you are planning for failure, sure, use any hosting. If you hope for success, use a reasonable host — it’s not that difficult, and if luck favors you, you’ll be able to capitalize on it.
- adamwong246 3y agoThis really nails the Jordan Peterson style of "decent advice packaged as sage wisdom."
- SPBS 3y agoThis is a Progressive Web App [1]? Terrible reading experience. The home page is just the book "cover", with no way to scroll down to the table of contents because it's convinced it has to behave as a real "book". Each page is a tiny snippet of text. This entire website would be better served as a table of contents at the top and use anchor links to jump to specific headers (and back). Performs 1000% faster too. And to top it off these are incredibly opinionated thoughts of a single person masquerading as life advice. [1] https://www.onedayyoullfindyourself.com/how-to-read-this-book.html https://www.onedayyoullfindyourself.com/how-to-read-this-boo...
- pazimzadeh 3y agoOne click to get to the table of contents seems ok But the content is kind of annoying and preachy
- erhaetherth 3y agoI read it as tongue-in-cheek
- todfox 3y agoOne day you will find yourself a sanctimonious old man who desires to pass on his "wisdom" to all those callow youngsters. Don't bother. You will still die having had no discernible effect on the world. You would have been better off trying to enjoy what time you have left than teach us your forgettable little lessons.
- TeMPOraL 3y agoOne day you will find yourself on the Internet, wanting to post a bunch of thinly veiled insults, addressed to the mental image of a person who, in your own head, annoyed you slightly, and therefore apparently deserves to be hurt. Refrain from doing so, as you would be turning your own self-inflicted faux victimhood into poison, and broadcasting it to the wide world, making everyone's life a little worse.
- brickteacup 3y agoNah actually shitposting is funny and should be encouraged. Yes I know this is HN but stop being so uptight
- booleandilemma 3y agoWhat millennial wrote this?
- lxgr 3y agoFor no reason in particular, here are the Unix Koans, presented in static single-page HTML: https://prirai.github.io/books/unix-koans.html https://prirai.github.io/books/unix-koans.html
- ryandrake 3y agoI can't believe all this dunking on basic, sensible, etiquette. Do we all just live like savages now? Yes, the HTML formatting is annoying, but I thought the content was pretty timeless. > One day you’ll find yourself being asked to conform. Refusing is often justified, but consider whether it’s actually just a request to be considerate. No one is oppressing you, for example, by asking that you dress nicely for your grandfather’s funeral. The world really needs a dose of this. We're not all being oppressed.
- lxgr 3y agoThere might be a lot of good advice in there, but the tone is insufferable. As far as etiquette is concerned: In my experience, it's equal parts (often ritualized) consideration for others and signalling group membership/social status. I'm all for the former, as long as it's not coating an effort to perpetuate the latter. That said, good advice will always stand on its own – if it can reach its audience.
- PaulRobinson 3y agoWe are social mammals. Mating, and food & shelter security (employment), often require us to signal to those within a group that we are “safe”, and that we are one of “them”. If you meant that people use etiquette to make others feel excluded and push them away, sure, that’s wrong. But I always counter that that’s just bad etiquette.
- stared 3y agoOn the contrary, I like it. This style immediately made me move from "looking for the most important pieces of advice" (if I had to right now, I would go for GPT4 anyway) to reading it for its aesthetic value.
- TeMPOraL 3y agoThere's also third part: standardization, Schelling points, whatever you call it. Basically, if people know and are expected to follow the same standards of etiquette, it eliminates for everyone a lot of small-scale worries that can be emotionally and cognitively taxing. In particular, etiquette tells you how to behave in certain situations so that you don't have to worry about offending anyone. This works, because common etiquette means that, if someone does get offended, and you actually followed the protocol, then they are in breach of etiquette and at risk of pushback from their peers. As a result, this creates a higher-level "game": an easy way to signal whether your intentions are friendly or hostile. You came to play nice? Follow the etiquette. You want to demonstrate your disrespect to someone, or start a conflict? Break etiquette in a conspicuous way. Those are strong, clear signals, which streamline interpersonal interactions, make cooperation easier, and lets people waste less time on thinking how to dance around each other. Note that for this effect, the behaviors prescribed by the etiquette can, usually are, and arguably should be arbitrary - what matters is that they are clear, conspicuous, and that everyone is using the same rulebook when expecting everyone else to follow it.
- block_dagger 3y agoSome of the advice is good. Much of it is sexist, antiquated, and focused solely on American culture. The format is interesting.
- mazzystar 3y ago> In any case, a PMB aims to combine the secure I think it should be 'PWB'? https://www.onedayyoullfindyourself.com/how-to-read-this-book.html https://www.onedayyoullfindyourself.com/how-to-read-this-boo...
- JellyBeanThief 3y agoHis email can be found on https://www.onedayyoullfindyourself.com/introduction.html https://www.onedayyoullfindyourself.com/introduction.html
- warrenmiller 3y agolike Bob Dylan said "Life isn’t about finding yourself.Life is about creating yourself"
- webjunkie 3y agoInteresting. It seems that the book assumes its audience is exclusively male without explicitly stating it. Might be a fit here for Hacker News, but even that assumption is already reinforcing gender biases.
- red_trumpet 3y agoThe introduction contains > Finally, I’ve written about what I know, so yes, most of the advice is geared towards young men.
- webjunkie 3y agoAh, thanks. Didn't see that. One more downside of all these little individual pages.
- llimos 3y agoOne paragraph in the entire book about raising children. It's a fairly major part of life. Is it fair to assume the author doesn't have any?
- joshu 3y agoI have seen people do this and it is definitely a breach of etiquette. https://www.onedayyoullfindyourself.com/viewing-a-photo-on-someone-elses-phone.html https://www.onedayyoullfindyourself.com/viewing-a-photo-on-s...
- tmsh 3y agoOne day you will find yourself writing a book. If you’re writing for a very specific audience make it clear in the title. Don’t assume your audience is male. It’s fun to write in this style though. And yeah some of them are quite good. I’m not ashamed to say I’ve tapped through most of them. One day your dog will cure cancer. Give them a nice scratch behind the ears. You never know when they’ll lose their taste in mid-century modern.
- svet_0 3y ago> One day you’ll find yourself wearing shorts. Fair enough, it’s probably hot out. One day you’ll also find yourself wearing a t-shirt. Again, fair enough. Unless you’re playing a sport, however, you will not be wearing the two together because you’re also no longer a ten-year-old boy. Yikes, OK boomer
- _8j50 3y agoWhy do you use that insult? It's likely they're just from NYC or something.
- svet_0 3y agoIt's the internetz' eye-roll, shorts are perfectly fine in nyc.
- _8j50 3y agoI've gotten stare downs for wearing a sweater at the wrong season there. Shorts are fine anywhere in the right crowd but east cost well to do people are very snobbish and strict about that stuff. They only wear shorts at the hamptons or florida lol. My point was don't assume it's an age thing.
- snapcaster 3y agoAppearances matter, are you rejecting the notion of style and fashion completely or just disagreeing with this specific advice?
- rchaud 3y agoStyle and fashion are 80% personality, 20% clothing. You can be well dressed, but if you have the personality of a cardboard cutout, no one is going to remember you, or that you were dressed fashionably when they met you. Also, just because you aren't wearing a t-shirt doesn't mean that what you are wearing is stylish. This 'tip' is just phrased in an annoyingly paternalistic way.
- _8j50 3y agoThis is a great inspiration for a tv comedy about a person who does the exact opposite of this stuff, in the spirit if George Costanza.
- itvision 3y agoDead
- pointy_hat 3y agoIt’s almost like all seasons of Curb your Enthusiasm were made into the book!
- msla 3y agoWell, here's something in it I like: > Good manners is the art of making people comfortable. Whoever makes the fewest people uncomfortable has the best manners. ―Jonathan Swift Yes, there are places where you can't be yourself without making people uncomfortable. That's not fair, that's not pleasant, and that's not good for you or for them, but it remains true. Yes, there are times when having good manners isn't a useful goal, and when it is morally necessary to make certain people uncomfortable. That does not negate Swift's statement above. Next up: > One day you’ll find yourself approaching a revolving door. Note that starting a revolving door often requires some leverage, so if it’s not already moving, it’s one of the few entrances at which it’s polite to enter before a woman. OK, this is weird old-fashioned stuff moderns think is either incomprehensible or offensive. Which is a good thing to realize: Some people have etiquette you either don't understand or find rude. Maybe you'll think better of it if you do understand it, maybe you'll think worse of it; regardless, it ties back to the previous statement, as considerate people change their etiquette rules if those rules make the people around them uncomfortable.
- kazinator 3y ago> There are places where you can't be yourself without making people uncomfortable. That's not fair, that's not pleasant, and that's not good for you or for them, but it remains true. If it's not good for you or them, how about not be yourself? Then that is at most not good for you.
- classified 3y agoYou get to the table of contents by pressing Page Down on the landing page. One day you'll find yourself incredibly annoyed by stupid cute webshit design.
- jjgreen 3y agoWith the same intention, but with a much better execution: Superpig by the late lamented Willie Rushton. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Super_Pig_(book) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Super_Pig_(book)
- stdbrouw 3y agoIf you are looking for modern wisdom, here are two much nicer alternatives: Philip Galanes' Social Q's and Kwame Anthony Appiah's The Ethicist, both columns in the NYTimes. They are the classy version of Reddit's Am I The Asshole?, more or less. Like others here, the content in "One Day You'll Find Yourself" rubs me the wrong way, though it's hard to put my finger on why. I think because it involves something of a bait-and-switch, mixing straightforward sensible advice with the idiosyncratic opinions of an old fart in order to make the latter seem respectable. For example, the remark that vegetarians are often too opinionated and should shut up is a typical overreaction by people who feel "seen" in the company of vegetarians or vegans even when nobody's saying anything bad about anyone else's choices -- people also get antsy when they're having a beer while talking to someone who doesn't drink, same deal, nobody's judging you but you feel judged -- which is given legitimacy by putting it next to advice to offer your seat to pregnant women and the elderly. https://www.nytimes.com/column/social-qs https://www.nytimes.com/column/social-qs https://www.nytimes.com/column/the-ethicist https://www.nytimes.com/column/the-ethicist https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/ https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/
- teekert 3y agoNice, I need my kids to study this: One day you’ll find yourself drinking an iced beverage. The ice belongs in the glass, not your mouth, but should ice enter your mouth, it should not return to the glass. Maybe add: It should not go into your hands or slide over the table. If it really is to big and cold for the mouth, just suffer through it or quietly walk (do not run) to the toilet to remove it. Some things are cultural though, like: Kissing a Girl on the Cheek One day you’ll find yourself kissing a girl on the cheek. This is great, sophisticated fun, but unless she’s your significant other, your lips and her cheek should not actually touch. Extra Points Cheek-to-cheek contact is fine as is the much-maligned “air kiss.”
- uf00lme 3y agoThis should be taught at all school with a pass/fail exam.
- rchaud 3y agoAmerican schools have deep-seated problems that won't be fixed by adding charm school lessons to the curriculum.
- laputan_machine 3y agohttps://www.onedayyoullfindyourself.com/swearing.html https://www.onedayyoullfindyourself.com/swearing.html Fuck off.
- codingdave 3y agoI know shallow dismissals are exactly the kind of comment we don't like on HN, but both the content of the book as well as the truly dubious concept that the UX should behave like a book, not a browser, really just is best summed up by a shallow dismissal: "OK, boomer." Edit: OK, I can't just leave it that shallow. The problem is that this is dated advice. Culture evolves. This author did not. I'm sure the content makes sense in their small slice of society, but that is not universally applicable to everyone.
- gglitch 3y agoNice. A Matthew Butterick [0] font [1], and it feels like a Butterick-informed project [2]. [0] https://matthewbutterick.com/ https://matthewbutterick.com/ [1] https://mbtype.com/fonts/valkyrie/ https://mbtype.com/fonts/valkyrie/ [2] https://practicaltypography.com/how-this-book-was-made.html https://practicaltypography.com/how-this-book-was-made.html Edit: Oops, I see it is explicitly acknowledged: https://www.onedayyoullfindyourself.com/acknowledgements.html https://www.onedayyoullfindyourself.com/acknowledgements.htm...
- danielnoiz 3y agoAside from the quality of the advice, I am turned off by the author not being named. I believe this was intended to make the advice seem more timeless but it just strikes me as a gimmick.
- rasengan0 3y agoThis. Being Asked to Conform https://www.onedayyoullfindyourself.com/being-asked-to-conform.html https://www.onedayyoullfindyourself.com/being-asked-to-confo... Consideration really helps in many situations over hissy fits but it usually requires skill and practice.
- SergeAx 3y agoThis type of website is a textbook case for using CDN in front of it.
- MollyRealized 3y ago... living in a shotgun shack, in another part of the world, behind the wheel of a large automobile, in a beautiful house, with a beautiful wife ... and you may ask yourself, "Well, how did I get here?"
- fallingfrog 3y agoIf I ever find myself I’m gonna beat him up for getting in my way all these years
- jacooper 3y agoThere is an issues though, many of these advice's are affected by culture, and shouldn't just be copy pasted to another culture, for example some of them might not pass in Germany.