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I can answer this. As a parent of two girls, I used to put a lot of pressure on them to boost their development. However, it took me a while to realize that the

I can answer this. As a parent of two girls, I used to put a lot of pressure on them to boost their development. However, it took me a while to realize that they were just normal, gifted children who were experiencing too much stress, which was not helping their IQ. I stopped putting pressure on them and now simply love them for who they are. I try to support them as much as I can and avoid the mistake of pushing them too hard. I have explained to them that I want to give them tools to survive in this world, and that I will never be disappointed in them if they can't use these tools.

throwawaysalome 3y ago
that I will never be disappointed in them They may not be gifted but they can see through this lie.
- archagon 3y ago
  Cynical. Some love is unconditional.
  - throwawaysalome 3y ago
    No one is questioning the love, the sina qua non for disappointment.
    - pk-protect-ai 3y ago
      Why should I be disappointed in them? It's like being angry at the weather for not suiting you. There are only about 1% of people on Earth with an IQ higher than 145, and even fewer of them realize their potential. However, there are no statistics on how many of these individuals are happy. I would like to do everything possible to make my daughters happy, which is a much more challenging task. They do not need to participate in a rat-race to achieve happiness though.
- pk-protect-ai 3y ago
  I didn't lie to them. They are my world. As soon as I discovered the stress that pressure was causing them, I stopped pushing it. As far as I know, excessive stress decreases mental capabilities rather than improving them.
shrimp_emoji 3y ago
There's also indication that "nurture" doesn't matter beyond the basics. The foundation is laid from day zero, and it's just an archive extracting itself into what it is. As long as negative stuff doesn't harm that process, it's as good as it's gonna get.

throwawaysalome 3y ago

that I will never be disappointed in them They may not be gifted but they can see through this lie.

archagon 3y ago
Cynical. Some love is unconditional.
- throwawaysalome 3y ago
  No one is questioning the love, the sina qua non for disappointment.
  - pk-protect-ai 3y ago
    Why should I be disappointed in them? It's like being angry at the weather for not suiting you. There are only about 1% of people on Earth with an IQ higher than 145, and even fewer of them realize their potential. However, there are no statistics on how many of these individuals are happy. I would like to do everything possible to make my daughters happy, which is a much more challenging task. They do not need to participate in a rat-race to achieve happiness though.
pk-protect-ai 3y ago
I didn't lie to them. They are my world. As soon as I discovered the stress that pressure was causing them, I stopped pushing it. As far as I know, excessive stress decreases mental capabilities rather than improving them.

shrimp_emoji 3y ago

There's also indication that "nurture" doesn't matter beyond the basics. The foundation is laid from day zero, and it's just an archive extracting itself into what it is. As long as negative stuff doesn't harm that process, it's as good as it's gonna get.