Hey, author here. I appreciate your reflections here. One of my motivations for writing this essay is that the difficulty of Asian family dynamics is rarely tal

Hey, author here. I appreciate your reflections here. One of my motivations for writing this essay is that the difficulty of Asian family dynamics is rarely talked about, despite it being something that many of us seem to face. I have dreams about my dad as well. Just last night I dreamt that he was beating me, and I kept screaming "help me, help me!" in my dream, except no one responded. Always hard to remind myself it's just a nightmare in the moment, when the scene is so visceral. I think you hit the nail on the head with coping being a hard journey that is still in our locus of control. I wish you (and me!) lots of grace in navigating the Asian kid journey. Think I'll always be navigating it. One thing I wonder about your dad is what his childhood was like. I wonder what sorts of pains he grew up with, such that he took it out so violently (physically and emotionally), on you and your mom. Thank you for reading through and for writing such a thoughtful comment. I'm really grateful for it.