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I want to be kind, but sometimes you also have to be HONEST. Evan doesn't just hide from confrontation. He and his team bans everyone who are confrontational.
by boxed 4y ago
I want to be kind, but sometimes you also have to be HONEST.
Evan doesn't just hide from confrontation. He and his team bans everyone who are confrontational. Like me. They wouldn't even acknowledge that they banned me, which is just cowardly. No one I worked with who used Elm would go close to talking with their own account on the Elm reddit because they were sure they'd get banned.
I argue hard because I was raised that way and I believe it's the best way to quickly find the truth. Like Steve Jobs said: strong opinions, loosely held. You argue hard, then when you are convinced by the other side, you flip with absolutely no time in between trying to "save face".
- surprisetalk 4y agoI believe kindness and honesty are orthogonal. > He and his team bans everyone who are confrontational. I have a very distinct vibe. And sometimes people don’t want me at their parties because I don’t fit their vibe. Sometimes I’m invited to parties and then asked to leave because I don’t fit the vibe. I don’t think anybody at fault in these situations :) It’s hard to curate communities, and it’s hard to fit in
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- poszlem 4y agoIn my opinion, Daniel Dennett's quote, "There is no polite way to suggest to someone that they have devoted their life to a folly," is highly relevant to this situation, and I respectfully disagree with your viewpoint.
- surprisetalk 4y agoThank you for being respectful :) no offense taken
- the_gipsy 4y ago[flagged]
- robocat 4y ago“Is it my fault if you can't handle the truth” - http://agileotter.blogspot.com/2019/09/is-it-my-fault-you-cant-handle-truth.html http://agileotter.blogspot.com/2019/09/is-it-my-fault-you-ca... discussed here https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=35475482 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=35475482